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How to Write The Perfect Groom’s Speech (With Examples)

Published date: 2nd April 2021 | Author: Hollie Bond

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How to Write a Grooms Speech

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No idea where to start when it comes to making a speech on your big day? We’ve compiled all the best tips and inspiration to help you write and deliver the best groom’s speech ever.

The groom’s speech is always a highlight at a wedding. It’s a chance for guests to hear all the romantic and heartfelt sentiments that you, as a newlywed, will be experiencing.

It’s also a feel-good part of the day where you get to acknowledge all your guests and thank individuals who have helped you bring this special day together. Everyone in the ‘audience’ will be friends and family, so put any public speaking nerves aside, as everyone will be willing you on to do your best and if you stumble over your words or well up when you’re talking about your new wife or husband – well, they’ll just love you even more!

We’ve rounded up 40 of the best groom’s speech ideas, with inspiration for funny, emotional, and unusual speeches, plus examples from famous grooms, to help you write your own Oscar-worthy speech.

What should the groom say in his speech?

Good news! The groom’s speech is one of the easiest speeches to write and deliver as it is essentially just one big thank you.

A groom’s speech should focus on thanking everyone who has helped make the wedding day special including the mother and father of the bride (or equivalent), the guests, his own parents, the best man, the bridesmaids, ushers, and anyone else who has contributed to the wedding.

The other main focus of the groom’s speech is to lavish praise and compliments on his new wife (or groom) and to tell them how happy he is to be married. Finally, the groom should raise a toast to his new wife or husband.

How long should a groom’s speech be?

Any speech at a wedding, including the groom’s speech, should be no longer than ten minutes. When written down this is approximately 1500 words, but make sure to time yourself before the big day in case you’re a particularly slow or fast speaker.

Ten minutes is the ideal length to get across everything you need to say, but not so long that your guests get bored and start to fidget. If you’re not a confident speaker you can always just say a few lines lasting a couple of minutes.

Less is definitely more when it comes to speeches. That said, if it’s too short you could sound flippant! Anywhere between five and ten minutes and you’re in safe territory.

1. Don’t be too formal

Unless you’re known for your love of a bit of pomp and circumstance then you don’t suddenly have to become the master of all things etiquette and stuffy speech-making just because it’s your wedding day. Your guests will want to hear you speak in your usual way, and as long as you cover the expected formalities like thanking everyone for coming, both sets of parents, the bridal party, and anyone who went above and beyond to help you with something like making a cake, then you don’t have to worry about anything else.

2. Focus on the start

If you can get guests smiling from the very beginning of the speech, then both you and your guests will feel relaxed and enjoy the rest of it. Have a think about something humorous that specifically relates to your guests or wedding situation rather than an obvious/ heard-100-times-before gag. Perhaps you’re known for your non-stop chatter, so you could open with “I know you’re all thinking you should take a loo break before I start talking, but I promise I’ll keep this as short (as I can!)…”

3. Don’t forget the main purpose of the speech

A romantic and heartfelt ode to the person you’ve just married should be the main focus of this speech. Try to avoid just saying empty words that anyone could say like “she/he is wonderful, beautiful, kind” etc. Think of specific things that your other half has done that makes you proud/ really love them/ that makes them unique. Anecdotes and stories that highlight a personal trait are the best way to do this.

4. Be romantic, not cheesy

Try not to fall into the trap of sounding like a compilation of all the lines you might find inside a cheesy Valentine’s Day card. Instead of “I’m so lucky to have found you” think about “My parents always told me nothing good would come of always being late, but I’m so glad to say I proved them wrong. I missed my train (as usual) that fateful day and the best thing ever came out of it… you.” Or a simple list of all the things that you particularly love about your partner, from the way they constantly fiddle with their hair to the way they talk to your dog like it’s a human.

5. Don’t give out gifts

This isn’t prize-giving at school and giving out weddinggifts to bridesmaids and ushers etc. will just take up valuable partying time. Give your bridal party their gifts in the morning when you’re all getting ready as it’ll be more personal in private.

6. Think about timing

A speech around the 7 – 10 minutes mark is considered the perfect amount of time for a groom’s speech (written down that’s about 1200 – 1400 words). Any less and you’ll sound a bit flippant. Any more and guests will start getting bored.

7. Don’t go into massive amounts of detail

We all know someone that tells a story as intricate and descriptive as a Tolstoy novel and how we automatically glaze over as soon as they start speaking. Don’t be that person. Your guests don’t want War and Peace – they want a nice easy to listen to a speech that doesn’t mentally challenge them, especially once they’re a few drinks down.

8. Find the perfect quote

If you’re not a wordsmith, let someone else more qualified sum up your feelings for you. There are plenty of amazing quotes from authors and famous orators out there and one or two of them may be exactly what you need to succinctly put all your feelings about the day and your partner into one neat sentence. Just make sure to acknowledge the original author!

9. Give your partner a promise

A lovely way to be funny and also heartfelt at the same time is to make a promise or two to your partner in front of your guests. Don’t just repeat your vows here, promise something that is unique to her/him. Perhaps she’s an avid rock climber and you’re more of a couch potato? Promise you’ll learn to love her crazy hobby. Maybe you’re not exactly Heston Blumenthal in the kitchen? Promise you’ll learn to cook your partner more than beans on burnt toast. Perhaps she/he is the world’s greatest Swiftie. Promise you’ll learn the lyrics to all their favourite Taylor Swift songs… you get the idea.

10. Prepare the delivery

The biggest mistake you can make is to write a great speech on paper and then not read it out loud before the big day. You need to practice talking slowly and confidently and leaving little pauses after funny bits (for any of the slower guests to get it!). Also, some written sentences don’t sound great when spoken, so reading out loud will help you to iron out any clunky syntax. Plus, you’ll want to know the speech almost by heart so that you don’t have your head in a piece of paper reading word-for-word on the day. Eye contact with your guests is one of the most important parts of delivering a successful speech.

You don’t have to be the next Michael McIntyre, but giving your guests a giggle and making them smile is the quickest way to make both them and you feel at ease with the speech.

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking you have to pepper your speech with gags and silly one-liners to make it funny. Instead, just focus on things that are unique to you as a couple or for the audience (perhaps the region you’re from for example) and have a bit of fun at your/ their expense. Be careful not to reference something that only a few members of the audience will understand as that will very quickly alienate your other guests.

Here are ten funny speech ideas to take inspiration from:

Focus on your differences

Comparing your differences can be an easy way to make the guests smile. Are you obsessively tidy and your new partner a bit of a slob perhaps? Can you cook like a pro while they can’t even heat soup without burning the place down? Whatever your differences, exaggerate them and make a joke out of them to get guests giggling.

Tell the crowd something they don’t know

Do you know some funny things about your bride/groom’s past that others in the audience might not? Now’s a good time to reveal that she/he did some hilarious hobbies or geeky things as a child. Perhaps they have a funny secret crush or can do a really odd trick.

Exaggerate your weaknesses

Putting yourself down and acknowledging something everyone knows about you can be a good way to make guests smile. E.g. “Would you believe it? The bride/ groom has finally given up holding out for Ryan Gosling and decided a bald, beer-swilling Insurance Broker from Newcastle is a better option instead.”

Here’s a good example of a funny, self-deprecating groom’s speech:

Make a joke about the wedding itself

“Before I begin, please can we ensure that all the aisles and fire exits are kept clear throughout the reception. There’s a medical team waiting outside the building and I’d like them to have a clear run when my in-laws are presented with the final bill.”

“I’d like to thank Mastercard and Visa, without whom this would never have been possible. My wife and I will be forever in their debt.”

Mother-in-law jokes

These always go down well if you actually get on with her! Reference something unique to your mother in law like her shopping obsession or how long she takes to get ready perhaps. Or keep it classic with: “I’ve been told that this is usually one of the only times in a man’s life when he can be around his wife/husband and mother-in-law and not be interrupted – so hang in there, I’m going to take full advantage.”

“In [in-law’s names], I have found the perfect in-laws. I always cringe when I hear jokes about difficult mothers-in-law because my own experience has been far from that stereotype. [Turn to in-laws and whisper audibly] Did I read that right? Please don’t hurt me…”

Tell a story

If your first date, engagement or the time you asked the in-laws if you could marry their daughter/ son has a funny element to it, go ahead and tell the story. Just remember not to kill the humour with too many details.

Talk about your partner’s quirks

Does your wife/ husband have any weird habits? Divulge a few to the guests but make it romantic by saying how much you love her/him even though they… still get drunk after one glass of wine/ still go to bed with a teddy bear at the age of 33/ always get the words to songs wrong/ always have to be the last person on the dance floor even when the lights come up…

Make the thank yous funny

Instead of a boring list of thank yous, try and inject a bit of fun. For example: “I’d like to thank my mother in law for passing on such wonderful traits to her daughter; her kindness, her humour, though unfortunately, an unwavering support for Arsenal has also slipped down the genetic line.”

Trip the guests up

Everyone expects the first line of the groom’s speech to mention his new wife/ husband. Momentarily confuse them with a sentence like this: “My ex-girlfriend/ boyfriend and I would like to thank you all for coming today” – and then pause while they work it out and laugh.

Use props or videos

If there’s a funny prop or a video that you can show during the speech go for it, plus holding something or giving yourself a break in video form can help stop the nerves.

Leave guests guessing

It’s fine to reference the stag do , but don’t tell a long and boring story about something that happened while you were on it. That’ll only be funny to the stags. It’s best to mention something and leave the end of the story untold as a cliff-hanger so that guests can fill in the blanks with all manner of funny thoughts.

As a groom, you have free reign to get emotional and if you’re not normally an emotional person it will really surprise and delight guests as they will realise just how much the day and marrying your loved one means to you.

You don’t want to get too over the top though and make your guests feel uncomfortable. Keep the really mushy stuff for your bride or groom on your honeymoon and instead focus on the sort of emotional sentiments that will make guests smile.

Here are some ideas for how to make your groom’s speech just the right amount of emotional:

Look guests in the eye

The quickest way to get guests to buy into what you’re saying and to feel the raw emotion of your words is by looking them in the eyes as you deliver each sentence. If you’ve had a difficult time in the run-up to the wedding and are really grateful for the support they’ve all shown, say so while looking sincerely at the guests you really want to show your gratitude to.

Put your heart into the thank yous

If you don’t want to make the thank yous funny or witty, how about making them emotional by not just thanking the person for what they did, but by explaining how much it meant to you.

Mention absent friends

If a member of your family or a friend isn’t at your wedding and is greatly missed then make sure to raise a toast to their memory. You don’t want to be morbid, but a few words about how much the person/ people meant to you both and how much you miss them, followed by inviting all guests to raise a toast to them is a lovely emotional gesture.

Let yourself feel the emotion

If you feel yourself welling up don’t stop the emotion – guests won’t mind if your voice breaks a bit or if you have to take a deep breath. In fact, it just shows how much the words actually mean to you.

Be creative when it comes to describing your partner

If you want to inject emotion into your speech, don’t just say sentences that could describe any bride/ groom. Think specifically about your partner and be poetic when you talk about them and it will be much more sincere than just saying: “My new wide is beautiful” or “My husband is kind”. Here’s a lovely example from a groom’s speech about how to reference your new spouse:

Want to make sure your speech is unforgettable? Make it unusual and unique with some of these stand-out suggestions…

Rap the speech

Got a hidden talent for rapping (or if you don’t it can still be hilarious), then why not attempt to rap the speech instead. You could do part of it normally, before breaking out into a fun rap perhaps.

Sing the speech

Got a good set of pipes on you? How about singing your speech instead? Choose a famous song and then write personalised lyrics to fit. You can make it funny or heartfelt – whatever suits your personality best. Having the words on PowerPoint beside you can help in case some guests miss the words.

Write your speech on blackboards around the room

If the idea of public speaking really is too much for you and threatens to ruin your whole wedding day, why not write it up on blackboards that can be displayed around the venue for guests to read instead. You could even pre-record a video of you reading the speech too. Guests who know and love you will appreciate the effort and know how stressful making a speech in person would be for you.

Speak in a different language

Are you marrying someone who is originally from another country and has another language that you don’t speak? Impress both your new wife or husband and especially their family members who make not speak your language by learning some lines in secret in their language. Starting the speech in English for example before changing seamlessly into French will wow your audience and be very emotional for your new partner.

Get other people to do it for you

Track down important guests who can’t make it to the wedding or some famous people if you can and ask them to say something special that you can record and play as part of the speech.

Borrow the words

If you don’t want to make a traditional groom’s speech, how about performing a poem or reading out the lyrics to a song that means a lot to you as a couple (just don’t make it as awkward as Pam and Mick’s rendition in Gavin & Stacey!)

Write a story

Why not make your groom’s speech sound like the start of a novel or children’s story in a ‘once upon a time’ format, but insert yourself and your new spouse as the main characters. After all, your wedding is part of your love story and you can end your speech with a toast to your happily ever after.

Get your guests involved

Don’t like the idea of all eyes being on you? Surprise your wife/ husband by prepping guests beforehand to each say a sentence. Or you can encourage audience participation by turning your speech into a quiz about you as a couple/ the wedding day.

Perform a musical mash-up

Make it themed

If your bride or groom has a love for something specific, theme your entire speech around it. Take these maids of honour who did a Disney medley as an example:

Tom Fletcher from band McFly did one of the most famous and unusual groom’s speeches of all time. If you can hold a tune why not replicate his speech with your own song…

Nick Jonas went down the heartfelt route for his groom’s speech at his wedding to Priyanka Chopra in 2018 and nailed the thank you to his new mother in law.

Mark Wright from TOWIE gave way to the tears when talking about new wife Michelle Keegan at their wedding: “Not only are you beautiful, but you are one of the most incredible people I have ever met. You truly are sensational in every single way.” Take inspiration from his touching way to be emotional without making everyone feel awkward.

Not a groom’s speech, but you could definitely steal the idea from the best man speech of Danny McKenzie at footballer Jamie Milligan’s wedding – he pretended he had forgotten the speech and then played a video that “showed” him racing through fields and various places James Bond-style to retrieve it…

Hollie Bond

Hollie is a lifestyle journalist with over ten years’ experience working in the wedding industry as Lifestyle Editor for You & Your Wedding magazine Also a Regional Editor for Muddy Stilettos, Hollie has written for Square Meal magazine, Family History Monthly, BBC History magazine and Homes & Antiques. In her spare time you can find Hollie in a dance studio practising ballet…

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How to Write and Deliver a Groom Speech – Guidance and Examples

You’re getting married! Let’s say that line is a bit slower until it sinks in. You’re. Getting. Married. To the love of your life. To your best friend. To the one who adores you despite all of your eccentricities. You are remembering to breathe, right?

As that exciting day approaches little by little, you’ve likely seen your home, your parents’ home and maybe even your soon-to-be in-laws’ home inundated with wedding ideas, scrapbooks, magazine cuttings, decorations, floral arrangements and more.

You’ve (hopefully!) booked the venue and chosen your wedding party , and you’ve likely listened to plenty of love songs that are all in the running for “ your song .” You might have even booked your honeymoon trip for somewhere tropical, somewhere historical, or even somewhere just a few hours away. Whoever said you needed to travel the globe to have a honeymoon to remember?

Now what you need to do is sit down and write a speech that you’ll share with friends and family at your reception dinner.

Why Should You Give a Speech at Your Wedding?

Because it’s fun! And it’s a nice thing to do.

Need more? How about because you’re a considerate guy, you want to thank people for coming to your wedding, and you want to honor your new spouse and the life you’ll share together.

This will be your time to stand before your guests and show your gratitude for their love and support. You might be a bit nervous at the thought of gushing about your bride, but don’t be . She’ll love hearing even a few sweet words.

And don’t worry if you choke up while speaking. Everyone will understand, and many people will likely choke up with you. This is a wedding, after all. Weddings and happy tears (at least we hope they’re happy!) go hand in hand.

The Five-Step Plan for Writing Groom Speeches

Grooms come in all shapes and sizes, and so do their personalities. In other words, not all grooms will be eager to jump up and dazzle the crowd with out-of-this-world wit and eloquence. And honestly, perfection is overrated. Just be your own beautiful self, in whatever way that means to you.

Groom speeches are as unique as the men who stand up and speak them, and so there are dozens of ways to produce a heartfelt speech that incorporates exactly what you want to say.

If you and your bride have decided to co-write a speech , you’ll likely have more confidence and direction in what to say. If you’ve decided to make your own speech or to speak on behalf of yourself and your bride, you might be feeling those butterflies just about now.

It’s no different if there are two grooms at the wedding ceremony; just decide whether one of you will speak, both of you will speak independently or both of you will share one speech – and then take a few deep, relaxing breaths .

These assurances are great and all, but they’re probably not moving you any closer to finishing your speech, are they? What should be in a groom’s speech? Let’s answer that with the following five steps. You can move through these steps as you craft a wedding speech that’s sure to delight your guests.

1. Acknowledge and Thank Your Guests

The first thing you want to do after you pick up the microphone is take a quick scan of the audience. The people sitting around and before you are there because they wanted to share this special day with you. They took time off work, booked flights, packed suitcases, traveled hours by car (or just around the block) and did it all with a smile and a gift for your wedding registry.

These people are special!

Start with a sincere thank you to everyone, extending your appreciation for their attendance at your wedding – using “our.” No, that’s not a typo! Unless you’re marrying yourself – you could try it, but it would likely be a lackluster marriage – you absolutely must remember that this is not your day. This is your and your spouse’s day.

Make sure you include words like “we,” “us” and “our” to signify your new bond.

You should also acknowledge and thank your parents and your new in-laws. They chipped in some – or let’s be frank, most – of the money for your wedding, and without their support your big day might have looked completely different. Your parents spent years of their life providing for you, and your in-laws did the same for your spouse. They deserve some love.

2. Introduce Your Spouse

Now it’s time for the main attraction: the person who captured your heart. Since this is your wedding day, you should introduce your new bride and share a few words of adoration.

Make sure you’re facing your spouse at this point. It’s perfectly okay to look around the room as you talk about them, but make sure your eyes are locked with theirs as soon as you say the words meant just for them.

Your spouse is the reason you’re standing there in front of people. Your friends and family love you, of course, but they didn’t come all this way just to hear you ramble on about your favorite song or your newest gadget experiment. They want to hear about how special this person is, and how much you love being together.

3. Share Some Stories

Once you introduce your spouse and cause more than a few blushes, your next task will be to share some stories.

You could start with a recent memory before moving to those early ones, or you could skip back in time immediately. People love hearing about how couples first met, with the next most common request being how you became engaged. Give the people what they want!

Make sure that any other stories you tell don’t put your spouse in a bad light . You can use some self-deprecating humor, but do not put down your partner in an effort to get some laughs or to keep people entertained.

Of course, that’s not to say you should automatically claim that your spouse is perfect and never does anything wrong. No one is perfect all the time. You just need to be genuine while refraining from anything too personal or embarrassing . Above all, you want to share the reasons why you fell in love and all the ways that you’re a better person for getting to know and then marrying your spouse.

4. End With a Toast

The last thing in your list to include should be the toast. Whatever you do, don’t try to include too many categories in your toast, or worse, try to toast each group separately. You’ll be tipsy before you know it, and your bride will be left feeling more than a bit uncomfortable.

It is completely appropriate to say something like, “ I want to raise a glass to my beautiful bride, my parents and in-laws, everyone in our wedding party and everyone who could join us today. We feel your love and can’t thank you enough for helping make this day a complete success. ” And after a sip of wine, bubbly or whatever else is being served, you can hand off the microphone and relax.

5. Practice Your Speech Repeatedly

You’ve written your speech, but you’re not quite finished. So don’t try to run off and visit your best buds just yet.

Now you need to start practicing your speech, and by practicing we mean saying your speech aloud – a lot. While you’ll gain some benefit from reading your speech over and over, it will pale in comparison to the benefits you’ll gain from saying it .

Speaking gives you a chance to hear all those times you pause awkwardly or slip in sounds like “um” and “uh.” You’ll be able to see how quickly you read, giving yourself enough time to practice slowing things down.

Five Bonus Tips Just for You!

Because we care, we’ve added five more tips to help you write a fantastic groom speech.

1. Don’t Try to Produce a Novel

Your speech shouldn’t be pages and pages long. No one wants to listen to a novel-length speech, even from the groom. All you’ll end up doing is causing your audience to develop glassy eyes as they think about an upcoming vacation or how much laundry they’ll have to do when they get home. Your speech should last no more than 5 to 6 minutes.

2. Don’t Forget to Pause Every So Often

As you speak, remember to pause and take a quick breath. Otherwise you could let your nervousness take control, resulting in a speech that falls flat because no one can understand it.

3. Don’t Include Gift Giving During Your Speech

Giving gifts to the bridesmaids, the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom is a traditional gesture during the groom’s speech. If you choose to continue the gift-giving tradition, don’t do it during your speech – it’s awkward for most guests and causes a lot of delays. Wait until later to give out gifts . It will allow people a chance to refocus and refuel.

4. Do Wear a Comfortably Fitting Tux or Suit

You’ll be able to relax and stay comfortable when you’re dressed appropriately. Whether you choose a tux or a suit, make sure it’s neither too big nor too small, and that it’s the right thickness for the weather conditions. Roasting away in a fancy suit won’t help you succeed.

5. Do Look at Your Spouse

Nerves can get the better of you, and that’s why you should look at your spouse as often as you need to while speaking. Just one look at that warm, loving face can be more than enough to settle any anxiety.

Groom Speeches: A Few Examples

To help you create the ideal groom wedding speech, just look at the five examples below. These speech examples will give you options for what to include in a grooms speech.

1. Groom Speech

This first speech is from a groom who begins by thanking his guests for traveling so far to see him marry his coffee shop bride.

Hi, everyone, I want to express my gratitude for all the love Remi and I have received today. Seeing so many familiar faces in the group has been heartwarming, and it’s all the more magical when I stop to realize that it’s all for us.

Some of you came from a long way away, with numerous flight connections and several hours of driving to get to this place. We dreamed of a romantic retreat surrounded by trees and little creatures of the woods, but clearly, we underestimated how long it would take to get to. Thank you for making the journey to see us get married.

We also want to thank our parents for their generous wedding donations and the years of putting up with us. I can’t speak for Remi, but I know that my parents spent many of my high-school years pulling out their hair and worrying about whether I’d make it home without crashing. If you’ve ever wondered why my dad’s eyebrows are worn thin, well, I’ll have to take the blame there.

And now, I want to formally introduce my wife, Remi. I’ll never forget the first time we met. It was a rainy December night and I’d run into a coffee shop in downtown Seattle. In comes this gorgeous girl, fighting with an umbrella that was threatening to turn itself inside out. I ran over and helped her, and her sweet smile just melted my heart.

It wasn’t long before we started meeting there regularly, and I just knew that here was the woman I wanted to spend my life with.

I’d like to raise a glass to Remi, our parents and our wonderful guests. Thank you for coming tonight, and Remi, thank you for loving me.

2. Long Groom Speech

What should be in a groom’s speech? If you’re like this groom, you’re known for your happy chatter and your love of family and pranks.

Well, I guess it’s time for my speech now, and you know me, I never shut up. So all I can say is that I hope you brought your PJs, ’cause we might be here all night.

But really, I’m just so happy and in love and married! Wow. I’m a married man. With a dazzling wife. I guess that makes me the luckiest guy in the world.

Family is really important to us, and so our first thanks go out to our parents for their never-ending support and love. My brothers and sisters have gone out of their way to welcome Sofia into the family, and I’m so grateful they agreed not to go through with the initiation ceremony. Sofia doesn’t know this, but she was almost going to be wearing a fuzzy bear suit while running through the forest on a clear, moonlit night. Just kidding. Or am I?

Sofia is my bride, and I hope to provide her with a happy home and plenty of laughter. Sofia, I am deeply flattered that you agreed to marry me. You could have said no, but amazingly, you said yes. You looked at the note I’d written in the sand and without hesitation said yes, you’d marry me.

I was glad you didn’t hesitate because I was panicking when I saw the waves approaching; I knew my message would disappear. We tried to snap a photo, but the waves had already pushed their way through. That was one of the happiest days of my life, though, second only to today.

Today we exchanged vows while overlooking the sea, watching the grasses waving in the breeze and the birds soaring on the air currents. Today there were friends and family around us, watching us take our first steps as husband and wife.

This is a day we’ll remember forever. Thank you to everyone for such a wonderful day.

3. Short Groom Toast

This third speech is a short toast in which the groom can’t help but express his admiration for his loving spouse.

Hello, everyone. I plan to keep this speech short and sweet, just like my wonderful husband. Today is the start of a new life together, one with coffee and muffins to welcome the morning, and herbal tea with lemon to welcome the night.

Thank you to everyone who could make it to our wedding, and to everyone who couldn’t make it but sent their love all the same. We are blessed to be married in the presence of so many loving faces.

We’d like to send special thanks to my mom and Leon’s parents for not questioning our desire to be married outdoors in the middle of a blazing hot summer, and for providing a loving home that allowed us to express who we are.

Leon, you are the best thing that could have happened to me. We first met three years ago to the day, which therefore means these have been the best one thousand and ninety-five days of my life.

Where was I before you? Lonely, depressed, working at a burger shop and trying not to let fried oil smells invade my apartment from the uniforms we had to wear. It was the same thing day in and day out, but then one day you walked by me on the sidewalk and suddenly the world got a few degrees brighter.

Within minutes of talking to you, I’d cracked my first grin in weeks. Within hours of talking to you, I was in love.

Here’s to you, Leon, and the road ahead.

4. Funny Groom Speech

Those with a funny bone will appreciate how this groom gets right to the heart of the matter – how most people just run from his speeches. He keeps the mood light and keeps the audience entertained.

Hello, everyone! If you thought you’d managed to escape one of my usual event speeches, you’re out of luck there.

But before you just pack up and head out, let me reassure you that this speech will actually be good. This is my wedding day, you know. Can’t have the masses screaming and running in fear, like they did in The Blob.

I wanted to use the first half of this speech to discuss all the best things about my French bulldog, Oscar, including how he carried that proposal banner like a pro, but my wife wasn’t exactly over the moon with that idea.

Instead, we compromised and allowed Oscar to wear his tux down the aisle. Oh, but did I mention that I’m now relegated to being chauffeur on our honeymoon in Iceland? Probably should have researched that one a bit more before agreeing – there’s going to be a lot of driving!

So today, I married a gal who’s already helping protect me from my own stupid ideas. It’s a perfect match. She can’t get enough of her kale smoothies, and I can’t get enough of my Lucky Charms. She goes bananas for dried fruit, and I just start gagging at the scent of dried fruit – and bananas. But she bakes a mean pumpkin pie, and that has to be worth something. Right?

Last but not least, I want to thank my parents for all the tough love, and Haley just wants to apologize to hers for marrying a guy who still can’t tie his shoelaces. And you thought I was just a casual loafer-wearing kinda guy ...

Thank you as well to my main man Benji and our bridesmaids, Kayla and Reese. And to everyone who is sitting before us, thank you for coming and for listening to me speak – and for not making a hasty retreat!

But seriously, you guys have given us so much love and it’s been a real treat to share our day with you. Let’s raise a glass to love and laughter, and the adventures to come.

5. Safe Groom Speech

If you still don’t know how to start your wedding speech, consider keeping things traditional. This final speech avoids anything too adventurous and focuses on giving thanks and honoring the happy couple’s love.

Alina and I would like to take a few moments to thank you for attending our wedding this afternoon. We’re grateful for the kind words and best wishes for the future, and we couldn’t be happier with how this day turned out.

It was a beautiful day without a cloud in the sky, just like we wanted. I prayed that the sun would sparkle off Alina’s dress, capturing her glow and her radiant face. As you witnessed today, my prayers came through.

Thank you to my parents, Mr. and Mrs. Banik, and Alina’s parents, Mr. and Mrs. Gizinski, for their generosity and hospitality. Without their support I could not have given Alina the wedding of her dreams.

I also want to thank Alina for agreeing to marry me. I promise to never let a day go by in which I don’t say “I love you.”

People like to ask us where we met. As it turns out, we met in the library on 24th Street. I was rushing around that day, and I bumped into a pretty girl carrying an armload of books. They flew everywhere, but somehow, we didn’t seem to notice.

To commemorate that happy day, I made a library donation to get our names on the brick wall. Our brick reads, “Daniel and Alina, love lights the way.”

I also want to thank everyone in our wedding party for their assistance, and everyone else who’s helped make this day a success. We have a few special gifts for our mothers and bridesmaids, and we’ll deliver them after the speeches have finished.

Thank you again for coming to our wedding. Let’s raise our glasses for a toast.

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Writing a groom speech is challenging, among the dozens of other things you need to do on the day of your wedding. But, a great speech is still the ultimate accessory. We asked the wedding speechwriting team at Speechy for their advice on how to write a modern groom speech.

Prepare to adapt

The last few years have taught us that nothing is certain. Despite this uncertainty, it’s no excuse to leave your speech till the last minute, even if that’s your normal style. Sadly, it’s rare for grooms to be hit by divine inspiration in the fortnight before their wedding, so take the time to put the work into your speech early.

Write the core of it and adapt the opening and toast depending on whether you’re addressing a smaller audience than you expected or one that is overjoyed to be back in a room together celebrating together.

Tell your story

Don’t get bogged down with etiquette guides and feel you have to be overly formal. Yes, thank the important people but it’s fine to start your speech with a ‘Well hello everyone’ rather than addressing your guests as ‘ladies and gentleman’ (chances are they’re not!).

Begin with a few insights about you as a couple: perhaps an anecdote from when you started dating or an account of any bumps in the road you hit while planning your wedding. If you’ve both managed to choose your wedding outfits (including your wedding suit ) and accessories without a fuss, well done. These are the big decisions.

Don’t be shy in acknowledging the difficult times you might have faced; guests will naturally be able to relate. This needn’t be maudlin – humour lightens the hefty reality of all that’s happened since 2020 and helps you bond with your audience.

Cut the groom speech clichés

If there’s one thing every boring speech has in common, it’s being packed full of platitudes. Resist the urge to use catchwords like ‘best friend’ or ‘soulmate’ to describe your spouse. These are unoriginal and add nothing to the speech.

Every groom thinks his partner is gorgeous, kind and generally amazing, so make sure you prove, don’t tell. If yours has been checking in with all your elderly neighbours throughout the pandemic, give this some well-deserved acknowledgment.

Think about their unique character quirks – wedding planning may have accentuated some of these. Perhaps their super creative, DIY frenzy made you discover one of their hidden talents. Or maybe you were amazed at the way they made every effort to include people you love in your wedding ceremony.

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Hunt the humour

Step away from the Googled jokes. Yes, it’s tempting but wedding one-liners are just not on these days. Ask yourself lots of questions. How does your partner make you laugh? What do you regularly ‘debate’? What do you do that annoys them? Remember the old adage ‘it’s funny because it’s true’.

Avoid starting your speech with the thank yous. Hook your audience with the entertaining stuff and get round to the formal stuff later. Don’t turn your speech into a roll call – there’s no obligation to namecheck half your guests. You certainly don’t need to thank anyone who’s been paid for their help.

There might be people whose support has been particularly significant in the past year. Give them a special mention, of course, but consider offering gifts and a more personal thank you at another time, to spare the guests who are there for the laughs.

Keep it punchy

There’s a skill in keeping your speech short. A groom’s speech should generally be between a thousand and 1,300 words. Any longer and you risk losing your audience.

Stories and jokes are stronger the punchier they are. ‘Command X’ is your friend – get rid of anything that needs too much explaining. If an anecdote is particularly long-winded, it’s unlikely to win any genuine laughs – drop it. We promise the more ruthless you are at the cutting stage, the funnier your speech will be.

No one even sat through a wedding speech and thought ‘If only it was longer’.

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The minimony

That’s jargon for ‘small wedding’ if you’re wondering fellas, something that’s become super trendy since the pandemic. Delivering a speech to a very exclusive guestlist requires a change of tone. Having fewer expectant faces in the audience allows more of an ‘in-joke’ vibe to your anecdotes which, chances are, most of your guests have heard before in a less formal setting.

Less background noise might feel intimidatingly quiet, but embrace the intimacy of the occasion – a small group, giggling together is a real tonic. These are literally your nearest and dearest, so give your speech the affectionate tone that warrants.

Prepare to deliver

A confident delivery is key, and sadly, Dutch Courage is a myth. Limit yourself to no more one than one drink before the speech. Using notes is fine (on thick quality paper, or maybe off your phone at a push) but you need to know your speech beforehand. It’ll help it to flow more naturally.

In the run-up to the day, film yourself giving the speech, then watch it back and decide where you should put more emphasis or slow down. Don’t forget to delete it off your phone or risk your performance being outed before the big day!

As a general guide, slow down and talk at half the speed you would do in normal conversation. It feels odd at first, but it really does make you sound more confident.

On the day, maintain as much eye contact with the guests as possible, especially the people you’re thanking. Prepare for good-natured heckling and make sure you pause where you expect laughter (it will come, promise). And relax – smiling is contagious, and if you’re feeling comfortable then people will be able to see that and they’ll feel relaxed too.

Do what you need to feel confident

Whether it’s practicing in front of the mirror, roping your best mates or family in to be the practice audience (even though they might hear it in real time too) or getting the right fit for your  suit  so that you look your best, do what it takes to boost your confidence. You need to feel prepared and at free from nerves, sometimes that just takes a haircut, some practice and a bit of peace.

If you need to take yourself away from things beforehand just to have a little relaxation time and to mentally prepare, that’s cool. Just mention it beforehand so that no one thinks you’ve bailed.

Once your speech is over you take a little time out to reflect, relax or decompress if you need to. We’re sure you’ll have smashed it!

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Groom’s Speech Examples

February 21, 2017 By Kate

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While it is not at all mandatory, some grooms will sometimes give a speech at their wedding. Traditionally, the groom’s speech comes right before the best man’s speech. Here are a few tips and talking points to think about when you are writing your groom’s speech.

First of all, you should thank all of the guests for coming to celebrate with you and your bride on your special wedding day. Acknowledge the effort that people have put in from traveling far and wide to helping out with the wedding. Do not forget to thank your parents and the bride’s parents as well.

Last but not least, do not forget to talk about your bride. She is the whole reason that you have this wedding. Throwing in a compliment is a good idea, whether you are talking about her dazzling personality or how gorgeous she looks in her wedding dress.

And since you will be married already, you can now refer to her as your wife. Your guests will love it when you refer to her as your wife and they will love to see it if your speech is a little bit romantic.

While it is very thoughtful to thank and acknowledge the important people in your wedding speech, you also want to avoid doing that for too long as it will bore the guests. Of course, there is a long list of people who have helped to make your wedding a success and you might still want to find a way to thank them for contributing to your wedding.

People like your vendors and the people in your bridal party might not all need a mention. If you would like to thank them, you can do so privately in person or by writing them a Thank You note. When it comes to making acknowledgements in your groom’s speech, you should definitely remember to include your parents, the bride’s parents, and the bride at the very least.

If somebody will have a speech after yours, then you will want to introduce them to the guests. In most cases the person following you will be your best man. You can just briefly say who he is and what he means to you before handing over the microphone to him.

As much as you might like your best man, he is not the star of the wedding, so you can keep his introduction nice and simple. If you go into a long story about the two of you, it might bore the guests.

When writing your speech, try to keep it to only a few minutes long. Anything too long will make it harder for your guests to stay interested and engaged in your speech. It is okay, in fact it is often welcomed to be romantic in your speech. It is your wedding day after all.

Below are a few examples of groom speeches that you can use as inspiration for your upcoming wedding. Let these groom speeches help you put together a unique and heartfelt speech for your special day.

1. You have all heard the story about the bride who dreams of her wedding day. But I have dreamt of my wedding day too. My wife and I worked hard and put our heads together to plan the perfect wedding. From the venue to the caterer and the suit and gown, a lot of work was put into this wedding. We prayed for beautiful weather, good health, and for our guests to all arrive safely.

But at the end of the day, the only thing that could make my wedding day perfect was getting to stand next to the woman I love so that I could exchange vows with her. At the end of the day, that was all that really mattered. And now we are here before all of you as husband and wife.

2. From the bottom of my heart, I want to thank all of you for being here. To my parents, for guiding me, even now as an adult. To [bride’s] parents, for raising such a wonderful woman, and of course to all of our guests and vendors, for making this day even more complete. And lastly, thank you to [bride,] as we all know, this day would not have happened without you. Thank you for taking a chance on me and thank you for loving me the way that you do.

3. Now as many of you probably know, I am not an in-your-face romantic. I don’t go out to the movies first in line to see the latest romantic comedies and I’m not much of a mushy person. But I became a romantic the moment I met [bride,] who is now my wife.

In my experience, there are two kinds of people. The people who are romantic at heart and the people who don’t really believe in true love until they meet the one. I fit into the latter category. I was a skeptic, I was cynical and never thought love would come calling. Until one day, it did.

And it always happens in the most ordinary, unexpected way. I was not some knight looking for a princess. One day we just bumped into each other and sparks slowly started to fly. And now here we are, husband and wife.

When it comes to [bride,] I believe in romance with all of my heart. Now that I have you, I will kiss you every day and tell you that I love you because I never want you to forget that. I cannot believe how lucky I am to now be able to call you my wife.

4. Growing up, I had the best parents that a guy could ever ask for. And besides being such wonderful parents, my mom and dad were such a lovely couple to know. And I was even luckier to be able to call them mom and dad. Thank you guys for really showing me what love is. Love is the best gift that you can ever give anyone.

Seeing that kind of love between two people every day is such a gift and it has inspired me to be a loving person to everyone that I know, especially to my wife.

5. Doesn’t [bride] look stunning today? I do not really need to go on about how beautiful [bride] looks tonight, though to be honest, I think she looks beautiful any day of the week and at any time of day whether it be morning, noon, or night. But beauty is only skin deep anyway. What counts is what you find on the inside. And the more I got to know my wife, the more I feel in love with her.

6. As some of you here may know, [Bride] and I started off as friends. Naturally, I tried my best to not fall in love with her, I really did. She is a selfless person who is always thinking of others. But I have other selfless friends too. She is thoughtful, but so are my other friends.

While I love her for all of her many great qualities, what I love about my wife more than anything is how well she gets me. She knows me inside and out and never once ran away screaming. And I love her for who she is as well.

And that is why we are all here today in this room, because one day, we decided that it was not enough to just be friends. We knew that we could not live without each other and we wanted to spend the rest of our lives side by side.

[Bride,] I cannot believe how far we have come. Sometimes it still has me in shock, just thinking about how lucky I am to be able to wake up knowing that I have you in my life. Thank you for marrying me and for being my wife.

7. There are so many wonderful people in my life that have made this day special. My parents, who have raised me well and taught me the true meaning of love. My friends and family, who continue to be a remarkable support system to me and [bride,] [bride’s] parents, who raised a remarkable woman, and of course [bride] herself, who I am now lucky enough to call my wife. You all mean the world to me and I would not be up here without you.

8. I would like to take the opportunity to introduce the person who will be delivering the next speech. He is our Best Man and a good and loyal friend. He has always been my partner in crime and he is a really funny guy. Let us all welcome _____________.

9. There are many times in life when I have been uncertain. Uncertain about school, uncertain about what career I want to pursue. There are many times where I didn’t know where life should take me or where I should live. Figuring things out can be tough. But I never had to think twice about [bride.] With her, everything is so much clearer and makes so much more sense.

[Bride,] if there anything in this world that I am sure of, it is that I was meant to be with you. Today is only the beginning of the rest of our life together.

10. We spend a lot of our spare time worrying, wondering, and planning for the future. When I look at [bride,] I know that I have nothing to worry about. I know that we will build a great life together on top of the relationship that we already have.

11. When I think about now having a wife, I do not think about what she could do for me. But I ask myself, what I will do for her. As your husband, I cannot wait to fall asleep next to you, wake up by your side, share a table with you, and have many more adventures. I hope to bring you continuous laughter, joy, and comfort as we embark on our married life together.

12. Some of my friends have teased me about getting married. They joke about me being on a ball on chain and tied down. But I don’t see it that way. When you meet the right one, it does not feel like you are tied down. Instead, I have never felt more free and happier. And I have certainly never felt this kind of love before. So for me, trading the single life for the married life was a no-brainer. When you want to lock the one that you love down, then that’s when you know they are the one.

13. I have always been a bit of a shy, soft-spoken guy. I don’t like speaking in public and crowds make me nervous. But seeing [bride’s] face in the crowd helps and I just had to say this: I really hope today was not a dream. I will probably wake up tomorrow asking myself, did that all really happen? Did I really get to marry the woman I love?

How many people are that lucky to find such a special person who loves them back? Out of all the choices and paths we took in life, I truly believe that it all led us to each other, to this very moment.

14. To [bride,] my beautiful bride. There are no words, no poems that can fully describe you. I can only say that you make my heart feel full in the best way possible. Thank you for choosing me and thank you for letting me be your husband.

15. [Bride,] you look absolutely stunning today and every day. Whether you have on a dazzling dress and perfectly manicured nails and every strand of hair in place or you just have a messy ponytail and some t-shirt and sweatpants on, you look beautiful no matter what you wear.

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16. Marriage, of course, is a big deal. It is a huge commitment. Planning a wedding is a lot of work and then of course, is the marriage itself. So why do it? For those who want to know why I asked [bride] to marry me, the simple, most obvious answer is love.

When I met [bride] and got to know her, I could hardly believe that she hadn’t already been scooped up by someone else.

17. [Bride,] you already know that as much as I love you, I am not perfect. But I will do my best to do my share in our marriage and around the house. I will try to remember to put my dirty dishes in the sink and I will do my best to separate the laundry correctly. But here is what I can promise you without a doubt. I will love you with all my heart and I will try to make you laugh and smile every day.

18. So I wrote a little something for [bride.] And you might be wondering why I am reading this in front of a room full of people then. Why not read this in a room with just the two of us? But since today is a celebration of our love, I thought what other way to celebrate this love than to talk about it in a room full of the people that we both love?

[Bride,] you look beautiful tonight. I cannot believe that I am yours and that you are mine, but I am so happy for it. Since we have been together, you have made me the happiest man on Earth, and today made me even happier. I cannot wait to embark on the rest of our life together. I love you so much.

19. When our eyes first met, I already knew

That you were my absolute dream come true.

Your very smile lights up the sky,

I am so happy to call you mine.

20. I had only ever read stories and heard tales of what true love was. It was not until you that I finally knew and understood what it all meant. To me, your name alone makes me light up. Your smile brightens my day and your eyes sparkle like the sun. But more than anything, I have met my twin soul.

21. [Bride,] I am so blessed to be able to call you my wife. You are an angel in my life. I cannot wait to share the rest of my life with you. I know that God will guide us on our path together.

22. [Bride,] you are my favorite person in the world. Today is our first day of being married and I know we will have so many other firsts. Our first house, our first child if we are lucky, and so on. I cannot wait to share all of these exciting memories with you, my lovely wife.

23. To [bride,] my beautiful bride, who I can now call my wife. While nobody in this world is 100% perfect, to me you are amazing just as you are. I love everything about you and look forward to spending my days with you as husband and wife.

24. [Bride,] I don’t know if you truly know how happy you make me. Words cannot fully or adequately express how your presence and love make me feel. I can only say that things are much better and much brighter with you by my side.

25. [Bride,] what we have is beautiful. Our relationship nourishes my soul and your company gives me so much excitement. You are fun and hilarious and beautiful and kind and smart too. There is no one out there like you and I am so lucky that you are my wife.

26. [Bride,] we have had so many blessings in our relationship together. Meeting you and becoming your friend was a blessing, and getting to marry you was an even bigger one. I know that God will guide us on the right path on our marriage and I cannot wait to see what our future has in store.

27. [Bride,] it is easy to love you. Not only on your best days, but on your worst days as well. When you are happy, I want to celebrate with you and when you are sad, I want to help comfort you and lift up your spirits. You make me so loved as well.

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28. [Bride,] you are many things to me. You are my best friend, my confidante, my rock, and my wife. You are my love, my partner, and my family. In short, you are everything to me. Let us toast to our future together as a married couple.

29. [Bride,] I am not the same person I was before I met you. When we first embarked on a relationship, something special started. A seed was planted and it continues to grow and flourish today. I am so excited to continue to grow with you and to see what memories our marriage will make.

30. [Bride,] thank you for marrying me today. Without a doubt, I know that we will be happy together. When we first met, I could never have predicted where we would end up today, but I am sure glad that this is where we are now. Now that I know you, I could not see myself with anyone else but you.

31. [Bride,] you are my other half, we complement each other so perfectly. You are the peanut butter to my jelly, the macaroni to my cheese, and the yin to my yang. With you, I know that anything is possible.

32. [Bride,] thank you for signing up to be my wife. I know that I am not the cleanest eater or the snappiest dresser, but I promise to make you as happy as I can. I will always try to put a smile on your face and I will always be there to hold your hand and whisper that I love you.

33. [Bride,] what we have together is love. We have no illusions of being with perfect people, but we love each other anyway. I will continue to love you, my wife, imperfections and all.


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What to include in the groom’s speech

The grooms speech is usually sandwiched between the father of the bride and the best man , and for that reason is often a little overlooked. These top tips will help you give a memorable performance:

Give thanks as a couple

Most grooms start their speech by thanking their guests for coming and thanking everybody involved in planning the wedding including parents, the bridal party , and anyone that has made a contribution such as baking the cake or making bomboniere . The groom should remember to ask his wife if she wants to thank any particular individuals as he is speaking on behalf of the two of them. Some couples now choose to make a joint speech.

Do mention your father-in-law

If the father of the bride has just given his speech, the groom should thank him for his words of wisdom, especially if kind words were sent in his direction. The groom should also thank the father of the bride for allowing him to marry his beautiful daughter. This is a good time to tell the bride for the first time how stunning she looks.

Use humour sparingly

If the groom is a naturally funny public speaker, it is fine to inject a little humour into the speech. He shouldn’t feel the need to force this though; the groom’s speech can get away with being serious and heartfelt. The groom should never make jokes at the bride’s expense or include smutty jokes that won’t be appreciated by some of the guests. Humour is really the domain of the best man.

Present gifts to the bridal party

The groom’s speech is a good opportunity to give thank you gifts to the bridal party to show your appreciation for all the hard work they have put into the wedding. They should be sure to ask someone to help them with this so they don’t have to leave the room in the middle of their speech to collect the presents. Make sure the gifts are well labelled so the groom doesn’t give cufflinks to the mother of the bride and perfume to the best man.

Prepare for the speech

The groom should limit the alcohol he drinks before the speech. The slurring, rambling, and bad language that tends to accompany tipsiness probably won’t endear him to the bride’s relatives. He should practise the speech over and over so he is sure to get it right, but if he does stumble over a line he can just laugh it off; the guests really won’t mind.

Dedicate part of the speech to the wife

The most important part of a grooms speech is the part where he talks about his feelings for his new wife. He should address this part of the speech directly to her and tell her how happy she has made him, how he can’t believe his luck, and how he is looking forward to building a future together. He should use specific anecdotes, such as the moment he realised he was in love and would be with her forever. Finally he should tell her again how beautiful she looks.

End with a toast

Traditionally the grooms speech ends with a toast to his new wife. After all, she is the star of the show. By now the groom should realise that once again this is a great opportunity to mention how pretty the bride looks. It’s better to mention it five or six times during his speech than not at all!

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How To Write The Perfect Groom Speech

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So, if you want a speech that will leave your guests laughing, your partner touched and you feeling just a little bit smug, it might be worth reading this Ten Point Plan of Attack…

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(Of course, if you want more than simply advice, check out our Groom Speech Template , Speech Edit Service or even our Bespoke Writing Service . We’re rated ‘Excellent’ on Trustpilot for a reason).

1. How to Start Writing the Perfect Wedding Speech

Never mind ‘how’, worry about ‘when’.

Start soon , ideally two months before the wedding. Do not be tempted to put off writing until you’re hit by divine inspiration and do not get side-tracked by table plans or biscuits.

Don’t underestimate how long it can take to be witty, meaningful and memorable. Yes, you know your subject rather well (we’re hoping) but even professional comedians can take weeks to ‘knock out’ a sketch.

Lock yourself in a room, shut off all social media and get writing.

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2. What You Need (And What You Don't)

A speech is not about handing out gifts and it’s not (just) about thanking people. It’s about reminding everyone why they should be celebrating the newlyweds getting hitched. It’s explaining why two sane people have just promised to tolerate each other’s crazy habits and personality quirks for the rest of their lives.

So, forget the old fashioned etiquette books, the essential elements in a modern groom speech is relatively simple…

And that’s it really.

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3. Know Your Speech Etiquette

There’re plenty of good etiquette guides online but sound the klaxon, they come with a warning.

Etiquette guides can seriously damage your speech. They can make you think your groom speech has to include a long list of thank-yous and old fashioned clichés. Resist the urge.

Here’s our no-nonsense guide to speech etiquette –

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4. Wedding Speech Material

So, other than the speech ‘to dos’ what makes up the bulk of your speech? Well, stories of course…

STORY HUNTING – Imagine you’re one of those detectives you see on TV (only without the Swedish accent or psychological problems). You have a theory, maybe that you’re marrying someone kind of special. It’s now up to you to prove it.

Retrace your romantic steps (metaphorically not literally, that could take some time) and work out the key bits of evidence.

What moments have been meaningful, funny or illustrate a point? If you want to reference the fact she’s a bit ditsy, remember the time she reported her car stolen only to discover she’d parked it round the corner.

GET INSIGHTFUL – Hunt down the things that make you and your partner unique. This is what adds depth, meaning and humour to your speech – and helps you avoid sounding like a generic cliche of a groom.

So, how does your partner put up with you? Are you the husband who can’t open jars? Do you eat your burgers with a knife and fork? It’s time to confess.

And what unique traits does she have? The ability to respond to Whatapp messages before they’re actually sent? An encyclopedic knowledge of The Great British Bake Off and its soggy bottoms? A ridiculously long tongue?

Whatever it is, make sure you paid tribute to her individual quirks. It says much more than just saying how beautiful she looks (though it’s essential you say that too!).

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5. Find a Theme

Right this is the important bit.

Your speech is made up of lots of different elements but it needs to hook people in from the beginning, establish a theme and carry that through to an almighty climax. It needs to tell a story .

An example of how to use a theme to bring everything together is a bride who used her teaching profession as her hook. She talked about what she and her husband had learnt from each other over the years, ranging from the comedy to the soppy, from the perfect poached egg to understanding rugby’s scoring system (she taught him). She toasted ‘ a lifetime of learning new and wonderful things about each other’ and everyone rather liked it.

So write a list; five things that people would associate with you, your partner and your relationship and see if you can spot a theme.

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6. Be Funny

Even if the crux of your speech is emotional and romantic it’s still good to have some humour in there too.

Nobody is expecting you to be a stand-up comedian but try to find the comedy in your reality. Are you and your partner really alike or really different? Do you share a guilty pleasure? Do you have a distinctive style of arguing? These sorts of areas make great speech material.

Reveal surprising facts or even, in some cases, props, like the fashionista’s teddy bear dressing gown.

For our comedy scriptwriter insider tips, read our how to be funny guide.

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7. Be Sweet (Not Sickly)

Firstly, be honest. There’s no point making declarations of love if people don’t recognise the person you’re talking about.

Don’t pretend that your partner is perfect or that you don’t argue over control of the TV remote control. Love her for the crazy nut-job she really is.

Secondly, don’t go OTT. You have to get the balance right between sweet and just showing off. Leave the pet names at home and keep anything overly gushing for the bedroom.

A good trick is simply writing a list of all the little, quirky things you like about your partner a la When Harry Met Sally .

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8. Be Different

Try to avoid cliches like ‘ special’ or ‘ the one’ and create new ways of describing love.

One groom said he was attracted to his wife because she looked like ‘ Bridget Bardot dressed up for a night at The Hog’s Head disco’ .

Another groom said his first date with his wife had left him with ‘ the feeling you get after the three course special at The Raj; very happy, completely satisfied but slightly nervous about what’s to come’.

If you’re really stuck, replace a generic cliche with a good, solid quote. Whilst plagiarism and being boring is never acceptable, using quotes is seen as positively inspired. Check out our favourite Groom Speech Quotes.

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9. Keep It Short

Aim for somewhere between seven and nine minutes. And that includes the pauses you leave for the laughter. Jokes are funnier shorter and emotion more powerful.

You may feel you have SOOOOOO much you want to say but the real test is saying it in the least amount of words. It’s kind of like a perverse game of Scrabble.

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10. Test It Out

Firstly on yourself. Read the speech out loud and if you find yourself stumbling on the same bit every time, change it.

Then get an audience. It needs to be someone whose advice you value, so don’t ask your mum if you’re going to ignore her.

Deliver it as you would on the wedding day. Leave pauses for the laughter (ironically speakers often talk over the laughter they’ve worked so hard to achieve). Remember to smile. Look at your audience.

And then – be receptive to criticism. If someone doesn’t get a joke, don’t waste your time explaining it as you won’t be able to do that on the day. The point of testing your speech is you still have time to change it.

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How to Craft a Heartfelt Mother of the Groom Speech

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Your son's wedding is sure to be a happy (albeit emotional!) day. After all, watching your son exchange vows with his new spouse is sure to bring a tear to your eye. In fact, it's fair to say your son's big day is just as significant for you as his mother as it is for him. On top of all this, you'll also be tasked with presenting a mother of the groom speech. In honor of your son's special day, you'll have the honor of toasting to your son and new son-in-law or daughter-in-law as they embark on this new chapter together as newlyweds. While this speech has traditionally been given at rehearsal dinners , it's not unusual for the mother of the groom to speak at the wedding reception , either.

If you're struggling to put words on paper to express the joy, happiness, and love you have for your son, you're not alone. To help combat writer's block—and get your creative juices flowing—we reached out to wedding planners and professionals for expert insight. Below, you'll find everything you need to know about crafting the best mother of the groom speech.

How Long Should a Mother of the Groom Speech Be?

When it comes to length, "short and sweet it the way to go," says wedding planner Nora Sheils of Bridal Bliss in Lake Oswego, Oregon. She says that 3 to 5 minutes is the perfect amount to time to get your point across.

But when should a mother of the groom speech be delivered? While the father of the bride speech is most often given during the wedding reception, can the groom's mom give hers then, too? "I believe the mother of the groom can give a speech at both the wedding rehearsal and at the wedding celebration," says celebrity wedding and event planner David Tutera .

However, if you prefer to speak in a more intimate environment, you may opt to present your speech at the rehearsal dinner . According to Sheils, the rehearsal dinner is "the perfect opportunity for a more personal mother of the groom toast."

How to Write a Mother of the Groom Speech

"The wedding is about the couple, so keep that in mind when you're writing your speech, so it's not just one-sided," explains Lynne Kennedy of The Gilded Aisle Weddings in Chicago. She continues, "Guests always love to hear how the couple met or when you knew this love interest was 'the one' for your son."

With all this being said, "Don't talk solely about your son," says Sheils. Instead, she recommends talking about his new spouse, what you love about them, and how they fit into your family.

Mother of the Groom Speech Template

Feeling overwhelmed with emotion? Not sure where to begin? Don't fret. This template from Hester Parks of Park Avenue Events in Atlanta can easily be personalized—all you need to do is fill in the blanks.

Introduce yourself. Of course, everyone will know who you are, but you'll need to greet your guests by introducing yourself.

Thank the wedding guests for coming. Open up your speech by thanking your guests for attending this special occasion. Express your gratitude and share how grateful you are that they were able to celebrate your son's wedding with you.

Talk about your son. Katelyn Peterson of Wedding Words , a wedding vow and speech writing service, advises sharing two to three "short and concise" stories about your son that spotlights their personality.

Talk about your son's partner. Be sure to highlight your son's new spouse, and express what you appreciate about them, Peterson says.

Share your heartfelt wishes for your son's marriage. Conclude your mother of the groom speech with a cheerful toast to the happy couple.

Who does the mother of the groom thank in her speech?

According to Kennedy, the mother of the groom should thank the bride's parents for raising a kind and beautiful person. Sheils agrees with this sentiment. She adds that this could be done at either the beginning or end of your wedding toast (depending on your preference).

The mother of the groom should also thank friends and family members for coming out to celebrate the joyous occasion.

How to Give a Mother of the Groom Speech

You'll want to avoid calling attention to your nerves or public speaking fears, says Peterson. This will only make people aware of the one thing you want to minimize."

Mother of the Groom Speech Jokes

Depending on who you speak to, you'll receive mixed opinions regarding jokes during wedding speeches. However, Sheils loves when wedding speeches are infused with humor. She tells The Knot: "Some of the most memorable toasts I've heard did the perfect job of mixing humor with sentimentality."

Lauren Smith of EventSmith Planning and Productions in Santa Fe, Texas, is another fan of jokes in wedding speeches. "Bringing in a joke or two keeps the crowd engaged and keeps some of the tears from falling during the entire speech," she says. What's more, she continues, "A good opener and a zinger here and there is just the right touch for a wedding."

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All this being said, if you do choose to crack some jokes during your speech, make sure that they're respectful and appropriate—and don't overdo it. After all, Smith says it best: "This isn't Amateur Hour at the Improv."

Mother of the Groom Speech Example

Seek inspiration in this fully written mother of the groom wedding speech from The Knot:

Good evening, friends and family members! As Jordan's mother, I wanted to take this time to thank everyone for being here tonight. Your presence means so much to us. I also wanted to thank Blake's parents, [mother of the bride/groom name] and [father of the bride/groom name], for raising such a kind, wonderful, and compassionate daughter. I couldn't be more grateful.

When Jordan was a little boy, my husband and I were big worriers: Did Jordan have enough to eat at kindergarten today? What if he fell and injured himself on the playground? The worries continued as he grew older: What if he got homesick at overnight camp? Did he drink enough water to stay hydrated throughout the day? These anxieties, which I know are now trivial, once consumed me.

See, people always told me that my job as a mother—and a parent in general—was to worry. It's true, up to a certain degree, but I've since learned that kids, at any age, are strong and resilient on their own. Like when Jordan spent his 10th birthday sleeping out at his best friend's house. In the morning, Jordan returned with a large cut on his arm. Jordan came home laughing about the accident, which happened when he was trying to cut a bagel open at 1:30 a.m. because he was hungry. I guess some things just don't change. Instead of freaking out, he remained calm, grabbed his best buddy—who, by the way, is now his best man—and applied pressure to stop the bleeding.

This is just one of many funny stories that have (and continue to!) define Jordan's, shall I say, daring, adventures. In college, he slipped over a beer can in his fraternity house. With two thumbs up and a broken ankle, he was rolled out on a stretcher to the local hospital. He ended up being fine, but he became the butt of the joke for the remainder of the school year.

If I could go back in time, I would tell myself not to spend so much time worrying. I know now that my son is in great hands with his beautiful spouse, Blake. From the first time they met, I knew he was smitten. He came back from dinner already planning a second and third date. When I asked when I could meet this special person, he promised me that he would invite them over for dinner if they were still seeing each other in three months. Fast-forward three months later, and guess who came over for dinner? Today, two years later, we are all here in celebration of their wedding! Jordan and Blake, watching you exchange vows at your wedding ceremony was nothing short of spectacular. Blake, you are truly everything I could have wished and hoped for and more for my son. And to have a new child is a dream come true. I am honored to be your mother-in-law.

Now, if you would, please join me in raising your glasses for a special wedding toast to the newlyweds. May you enjoy a lifetime of love, health, and happiness together!

How to End the Mother of the Groom Speech

To end the mother of the groom speech, Tutera recommends "making a warm reference to the bride and welcoming her into the family." He continues, "Share your excitement, joy, and love for her." He also recommends acknowledging your new in-laws by name.

Another option is to raise a glass and invite all of your wedding guests to join you in a toast at the wedding reception. Sheils says "My go-to is 'Here is to love, to laughter, and happily ever after. Cheers!'"

What NOT to Say in a Mother of the Groom Speech

While there are certain points you'll want to make in your mother of the groom speech, there are also several topics to avoid:

Don't embarrass your son. "Unless the groom can take it in good fun, I wouldn't put him up for any embarrassment," says Laura Maddox of Magnolia Celebrates in Roswell, Georgia.

...or his partner. "Stay away from embarrassing stories, especially of the bride." Maddox advises. "No one wants to be raked over the coals on their wedding day."

Skip the inside jokes. Otherwise, according to Sheils, you'll run the risk of leaving others feeling excluded.

Don't mention the exes. "Do not, for any reason, bring up a past relationship, good or bad," says Sheils, adding: "It never sits well."

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The Groom’s Speech

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The groom’s biggest duty on his wedding day – after getting married! – is giving the groom’s speech. We’ve put together a guide to giving an excellent groom’s speech, complete with a speech checklist, tips on staying calm and examples of amazing groom’s speeches. What are you waiting for?! We answer all your speech questions here.

Who does the groom toast and thank?

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The Tradition of the Groom’s Speech

The groom’s speech traditionally comes at the end of the wedding breakfast. It’s part of the transition from the formalities of the day into the party.

In a very traditional wedding set up, a toastmaster would introduce each speaker ahead of their speech, but you could ask a member of your wedding party to do this, or just introduce yourself for a less formal feel.

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How long should the groom’s speech last?

Ideally, you want your speech to be no more than ten minutes. Practise it a few times ahead of the big day and time yourself. Make sure you speak slowly and clearly!

You don’t want your groom’s speech to last more than ten minutes so your guests don’t start to feel fidgety and bored. Save the extended gushing about your partner for a private moment!

If you’re very nervous about giving a speech, you can keep it as brief as you like. Just lead a toast to your partner and perhaps one to thank those who have helped you get married. We would recommend discussing this with your partner beforehand so they know what to expect from your shorter groom’s speech.

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When does the groom’s speech happen?

The groom’s speech follows the father of the bride’s speech typically. The father of the bride would traditionally go first as the host of the day, however this might not be the case for your wedding set up.

More and more couples are opting to have the speeches before the wedding breakfast so you can relax and enjoy your meal. You can find out more about the order of the wedding speeches here.

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There is etiquette around who traditionally says what at a wedding . The groom traditionally thanks and leads toasts to the following in his speeches:

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How to Write a Groom’s Speech

Writing a groom’s speech isn’t as daunting as you might think it is. As long as you’ve complimented your new spouse and thanked your key guests, you’ve basically done your job! We’ve included a groom’s speech checklist for you to make sure you have included everything you need, but here are some further pointers…

Be sure to practise your speech so you feel confident reading it aloud. Perhaps read it to a trusted friend or relative to get their feedback ahead of your wedding. Make sure you time it as well so you know that it doesn’t go on for too long.

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The Groom’s Speech Checklist

Compare your speech to this handy groom’s speech checklist to make sure you’ve included everything you need to and haven’t missed anything off:

Read more: Sample toasts for the groom’s speech

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How to Make a Groom’s Speech

You might feel totally fine about writing a groom’s speech, but be more nervous about actually giving the speech. That’s totally understandable!

It helps to remember you’re giving your speech to a room full of your friends and family – they all love you and are there to celebrate with you, not judge you. No one will care if you stumble on a word and no one will think badly of your speech.

The old confidence trick is to image everyone naked or in their underwear but, having just got married, you shouldn’t really be imagining anyone naked! The best thing to do is take a deep breath before speaking and pick something at the back of the room – a picture, a plant, a column – and address your speech to that item.

By doing that, you’re looking out across the room and directing your voice to the furthest reaches of the space – ideal if you haven’t got a microphone!

If you have got a mic, don’t hold it too close to your face and remember to keep your speech slow – it can be tempting to rush to get it over with, but no one will be able to understand you! Pause briefly between your sentences and keep focusing on that plant at the back of the room if you need to. Remember to look at your new wife or husband from time to time though, so they don’t think you’re totally besotted with a floral arrangement!

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Short Groom’s Speech Template

We’ve put together a free short groom’s speech template to help you if you’re really stuck with writing your speech:

“Hello everyone. You should all know me, I’m [NAME], the groom, and if you don’t…how on earth did you get on the guest list?

I’d like to say thank you [NAME OF FATHER OF BRIDE/EQUIVALENT] for those kind words. And thank you [PARTNER’S PARENTS] for welcoming me into the family – not just today, but from that (terrifying/lovely/memorable) moment we first met, [NUMBER] of years ago.

I don’t know who was more nervous that day, me or [PARTNER], but luckily we all hit it off and I’ve felt like part of the family ever since. Thank you [NAMES] for that, and for all your help pulling off the wedding of the year.

Whilst I’m thanking parents, I’d also like to thank my own. Thank you for all the support and love you have given me over the years, and thank you for your help making today what it is. [GIVE GIFTS HERE IF DOING SO]

On behalf of my wife [OR EQUIVALENT], I’d like to thank you all for coming here to celebrate with us today. I know some have you have travelled very far – it just goes to show what some people will do for a free meal!

Whilst I’m thanking people, especially those who’d do anything for a free meal, I suppose I better thank the best man. [NAME], thank you for your help today, thank you for not upstaging me too – I didn’t ask him to look like that ladies and gents, but that’s how good of a friend he is. Thanks also to all the stags – but the less said about the stag do the better, we’ve all agreed.

And [BRIDE’S NAME] and I would also like to thank the bridesmaids. Thank you for organising a fab hen do and for keeping [NAME] calm today. I’m not sure how you pulled it off, but I might be asking you for tips. I’m sure everyone will agree you all look beautiful today, second only to my beautiful bride. Would everyone join me in raising a glass to the bridesmaids? To [NAMES].

Now, it wouldn’t be much of a speech if I didn’t thank my beautiful bride [OR EQUIVALENT]. [NAME], what can I say? I didn’t think you could look any more incredible, but yet again you’ve proven me wrong. You simply took my breath away today and I feel like the luckiest man in the world.

I knew I had to marry you when [INSERT ANECDOTE], and here we are. I can’t wait to spend the rest of our lives together and feel as lucky as I do today every single day. Ladies and gentlemen, please join me in raising a glass to my beautiful, funny, caring, smart wife – to [NAME].

Now I’ll hand you over to the best man – but be warned. He had an accident as a child and as a result has a terrible tendency to lie and exaggerate. Don’t believe everything he says…”

Read more: How to thank people in the groom’s speech

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Everything to Know About Your Groom Speech: Tips, Advice, and Examples

All you need is 15 minutes to prepare.

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While it’s not a steadfast requirement, a groom's speech adds a powerful pre or post-dinner touch to the wedding if you address the crowd for a few short minutes. I’m confident that when you finish this article, you’ll actually WANT to say a few words.

Meet the Expert

Pete Honsberger has been a serial groomsman, speaker, and wedding toast advisor for most of his adult life. When it comes to wedding toasts, he's seen just about everything.

As a guy who grabbed the mic at my own wedding, and who has spent years cultivating wedding speech stories for my book Wedding Toasts 101: The Guide to the Perfect Wedding Speech , I can honestly say that it’s a beautiful moment and one you won’t want to skip.  

And here’s the best part: Reading this is the only major preparation you’ll need to complete. So follow me and let’s set you up for success! 

Groom Speech Tips

You only need a few minutes to prepare, and about two minutes to deliver your speech . This is your chance to recognize the hard work that others (and you) have put into this amazing day, to thank everyone for giving you the gifts of their time (and money, haha!), and to add another twinkle in your love’s eyes.  

My advice? Keep it brief, but make it count. From my experience and those that I’ve witnessed, it’s so worth it.  

Groom Speech Preparation

In my experience, you won’t need more than 15 minutes to complete all the steps in advance. Just be sure to have a tidbit for each and you’ll look like a pro. Most importantly, you’ll show the crowd, your family, and your partner that you genuinely appreciate them.  

On the big day, it's customary to give your speech either right before or right after dinner is served. You'll want to speak to your planner in advance about fitting your toast into the reception timeline , but once it's go-time, simply gesture for a microphone and ask for the guests’ attention.

Groom Speech Template

To begin, simply prepare these five steps.

Step 1: Give Thanks 

Regardless of wedding size, you’ve had people traveling distances and giving their time to be in attendance. Most (and hopefully all) have brought you gifts , many of the pieces of green paper that will serve you very well as you start your new life. And even more than that, they deemed you important enough to spend a day of their lives participating in your celebration. 

Any and all of these efforts deserve a huge thanks. Now’s your chance to share that gratitude with everyone directly. In spite of our best efforts, my wife and I were not able to physically speak to every one of our 284 guests during our 2018 wedding. You likely won’t either, so use this opportunity to address everyone at once, and don’t forget to put some emotion on display.  

For example, a simple way to thank everyone would be to say:

"The only thing I want to say is WOW. People have told me this would be the best day of my life, and I can honestly say it’s true, because of all of you (pointing at the crowd), and especially you (pointing at your partner). I cannot thank you all enough for being here."

You may choose to keep it even more simple, perhaps something like:

"I’m a lucky guy. To have friends like you, family like the [your last name]s, in-laws like the [in-laws’ last name]s, and a wife like [name of your partner] is all I could ever ask for. Thank you to everyone…and don’t let me down on the dance floor."

Whatever you do, make sure to show love and respect for your in-laws. Whether they contributed $1 or $100,000 to the wedding, remember that you’re marrying them as well as your partner. 

Step 2: Give One Compliment to Your Partner

At its root, this person is what your wedding day is all about. Cue up a classy and perhaps playful compliment about their dress or tux, the work they did to make the day possible, their patience in dealing with you, their resilience in wedding planning while you were out of town on a business trip, or simply their unwavering love throughout a challenging process.  

If you’re currently planning your wedding, you know exactly what I mean by “challenging process.” With so much to do and so many decisions to be made, there’s no way it could have gotten done without your better half.

Tell them this publicly. You only need one or two lines to share your appreciation and to make their eyes sparkle and their face blush with slightly embarrassed happiness.  

For example:

“[Name of your partner], I’ll never forget seeing you walk down the aisle today. You are beautiful in more ways than I can count.”  

If you know your partner would prefer something playful/funny, you can put on a very serious face and then say something like:

“[Name of your partner], you must be a parking ticket because you have FINE written all over you right now!” 

Then pause for the inevitable roar in the room. 

Step 3: Recall One Memory 

You don’t have a lot of time for this, so pick out one noteworthy anecdote or short memory from your relationship, from the wedding planning process , or from your interactions with their family and friends. Share your most compelling and enthusiastic version of that story and you’ll delight the whole crowd.  

You may have already been through the best man and maid of honor toasts , so this is your chance to toss in your two cents. The people don’t need a whole nickel here, so to speak, just two cents will do. Keep it short and sweet, and be sure to share something that hasn’t already been said.  

“When [name of partner] and I first met, we talked for hours until our friends all wanted to leave. I started to panic since I didn’t want to stop getting to know them. So I suggested we keep the party going by getting some pizza while everyone else went home. We’re only here tonight because my [husband or wife] likes pizza!”

Here’s another idea:

“When I first met my father-in-law, he asked me what my intentions were with his daughter. I told him it was to treat her like a queen no matter where the relationship went. That’s what I said out loud. What I really meant was, ‘my intentions are to survive through this meal’. But I’ve made it this far!”

Step 4: Share One Reception Comment 

Whether it’s about the dinner being currently served, the signature cocktail available at the bar, the DJ/band, or the overall atmosphere in the reception hall, pull out one comment to share aloud related to the evening’s experience.  

The purpose of this is to connect the whole room with your vision for the night. If you want the dance floor absolutely packed, speak it into existence. If you have a specially requested song you want to tease, mention it here.  

For example, my wedding included a Serbian dance called the “Kolo” in the middle of the reception. This was an opportunity for me to speak to that contingent of guests, to let them know that we would be participating in that tradition. For the uninitiated in that culture, it was an invitation to learn something new in a fun way. The pictures of that dance speak for themselves—a joyous mixture of great and horrible Kolo dancing from guests of several different backgrounds having fun together.  

Maybe your reception comment is about a special treat that someone’s grandmother has added to the dessert table. Or maybe the décor was chosen for a personal reason. Heck, this is even an opportunity to explain the table favors and how you want people to enjoy them.  

“You might notice the noise-makers in the middle of your table right now. And you might be wondering why those are there. All I can say is to put one in your pocket now and trust me. You’ll know when it’s time to use them.”  

Step 5: Give Thanks Again

One more round of thanks will put a bow on your short, sweet, and powerful groom toast. If there’s anyone you forgot to thank the first time, now’s your chance. For your new spouse, their family, and yours, this is one more well-deserved shout-out to them.

It may be in your favor to mention the priest or officiant of the wedding, as well as the staff who is working hard to make the reception flawless and fun for the guests. A half-joking “please give an extra scoop of the mac & cheese to Uncle John and pour the drinks strong for my college friends” will earn you a good-hearted chuckle as you wrap things up.  

You’re welcome to ask people to raise a glass to share a toast. May I suggest, however, that the toast is to your partner, your families, and all of the friends here tonight.  

What to Know About Virtual Toasts

If the wedding was unexpectedly modified, made virtual , or downsized due to conditions outside of your control, then attendees have gone through even more to be present. If they are attending via Zoom or live stream , they’re sending the message that they’ll be there for you even if they can’t enjoy the open bar (which, let’s be honest, is a sacrifice).  

At my brother’s wedding in the summer of 2020, a party of 200 was reduced to about 50. Those who attended went to great lengths to still be there amidst uncertainty. So many would-be-guests showed their love in different ways, like commenting/making song requests on the live stream, pre-recording messages of congratulations for the couple, replicating the reception in their own homes by dressing up to dance in their living rooms and so many others. While it should have been sad to have loved ones miss out in-person, the creativity and support were overwhelming and absolutely unforgettable.   

Remember this when preparing your speech and adjust steps one, four, and five accordingly. After all, your goal is to connect with everyone on Zoom just as you want to connect with every guest in the room.

Congrats! Now that you've mastered your toast, feel free to share the below link with your best man to ensure that his speech is just as impactful.

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Best Groom Wedding Speech: Ideas on how to write The Perfect One

Being a groom can be daunting, especially when it comes to writing your wedding speech. Whether you’re hosting a large wedding or an intimate celebration, standing in front of an audience can be nerve-wracking.

How can you share your love for your bride, and thank your guests, in an entertaining yet sincere manner?

Thankfully, our handy guide to writing the perfect grooms speech is here to help. Discover when to give your groom wedding speech, who to include, and how to write a sentimental speech that your guests (and bride) will love.

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Who Does The Groom Toast?

When preparing to write your groom wedding speech it’s important to know who to address. When planning your speech, you’ll want to thank your guests for attending your nuptials, say thank you to the father of the bride (who will give his speech before yours) and your best man. Naturally, you will want to say thanks to your beautiful bride and her family as well as the bridesmaids and your own wedding party. Remember, giving a shout out to specific people will enhance the sincerity of your speech.

If you’re hosting a rehearsal dinner, you may wish to give a short wedding speech at this event as well. Don’t worry too much about this. A speech at your rehearsal dinner needs to be very short and essentially thank the people who have already given toasts as well as thanking other attendees at your wedding rehearsal dinner.

When Should The Groom Give His Speech?

Tradition states that the groom gives his speech at the wedding reception, following the ceremony. The father of the bride generally delivers his speech first, but if there is no father of the bride, you may wish to ask another family member, or the bride, to give a speech first.

Sit down with your bride and decide the order of speeches – you may want to avoid tradition and choose your own order of toasts – whatever you decide is perfectly fine.

Writing A Groom Speech

Writing a groom’s speech doesn’t need to be overwhelming. The key to giving a great wedding speech is preparation. It’s a good idea to begin writing your wedding speech at least several weeks before your actual wedding day. This gives you plenty of time to write the perfect groom wedding speech and rehearse in front of friends or relatives.

The ideal wedding speech for a groom should be a blend of romance, entertainment, and authenticity. Writing doesn’t come naturally to everyone, so to start, write down the main points of your speech first. These tips will help when it comes to writing your first draft.

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Father Of The Groom Speech Guide (With Examples)


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Your son is getting married, and as the big day approaches, amongst all the planning and emotion, you have to think about your father of the groom’s speech. This might as well be one of the most important speeches of your life.

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How To Deliver The Speech

Frequently asked questions, where does the father of the groom speech come in the order of wedding speeches.

In the order of wedding speeches, the father of the groom speech is traditionally done after the father of the bride speech and before the best man speech . So you will want to be ready.


Father Of The Groom Speech Outline

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The father of the groom’s speech usually involves welcoming guests and family members, toasting the happy couple, and telling a few anecdotes about the groom.

We have detailed below a basic outline for a father of the groom speech:

Ideas For Your Father Of The Groom Speech

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Writing a speech is not always easy. So it’s great to have ideas to guide you when writing any wedding speeches . Below are a few ideas to keep in mind:

Father Of The Groom Wedding Speech Examples

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Writing a speech from scratch is totally admirable and acceptable. However, at such a demanding time as a sons wedding ceremony , it can be quite helpful to get some inspiration along the way. Below is a few Father of the groom wedding speech examples that can help with that.

It can be very hard to find a love like the one [groom] and [bride] share. It is a rare thing to have and if you are lucky enough to find it, you better not be foolish enough to let it go. I am so happy and full of joy to see the love that [bride] and [groom] have for each other. And I am grateful that I was able to witness my son fall in love and get married to the woman of his dreams. I cannot wait to see what lies ahead in the rest of their future together.
As someone who raised my son to be a perfect gentleman, I have to tell you [bride,] that you have landed quite the catch! But you know who is even luckier? My son, for having found you. You are an exceptional person who means the world to [groom] and you hold a special place in my heart to because you are the woman who makes my son truly happy.
My hope for my son and his new bride are that they find the same comfort in each other that my wife and I find in each other every day. If you ever feel lost, look to each other for support and guidance. When you are happy and have achieved a dream, celebrate with each other. This is only the beginning of a great journey for the two of you and I wish you the best of luck on this amazing adventure together.
[Bride] and [groom,] you know that I have been married for a long time. And while I can joke about the downsides of marriage and the little disagreements that inevitably happen, it is much more worthwhile to talk about the benefits of marriage. Because when you are with the right person, the positives will always overwhelmingly outweigh the negatives.
Some people have no idea when they meet “the one.” Sometimes it takes some time and a few pushes before the sparks begin to fly. Slowly but surely, what is meant to happen and two people form an indescribable and inseparable bond that can stand the test of time. If you have ever experienced this phenomenon before, then you know exactly what I am talking about. And I know that [bride] and [groom] know exactly what I am talking about. When I look at them, I see a love that is pure and strong. I know that they will build a happy life together as a married couple.
Marriage is a fun adventure that is full of surprises, twists, and turns. As someone who has been married for a long time, I am still on this exciting journey. And I have to say that it never gets old, being married to the person that you love. Love one another, pay attention to each other, and learn to put the other first.
[Groom,] my wish for you is that you and [bride] have the same good fortune and love that has gotten your mother and I through all of these years. May you always love each other and be full of patience and understanding. Be honest and loyal and good to each other. And I sure do hope that you make each other laugh until you cry. Never let each other go.
[Bride,] [groom,] congratulations to you both. I wish the two of you all the happiness in the world. While I know that you two are already a blessing to each other, I know that you will continue to live a blessed life together as man and wife.
When I think of [bride] and [groom], I am hard-pressed to think of two people who are better suited for each other. They both make each other wiser, more patient, and strong. Anyone who knows them knows that they care about each other deeply. There is true love there that can withstand the test of time.
I have always been a firm believer that God always has a plan for all of us. It is what led me to finding my wife, which has led to us having our son [groom.] And I believe that God also led [bride] and [groom] to each other. Some call it fate, but I call it God’s plan.
When my son found [bride], I was so thrilled with him along with the rest of the family. We were so excited to get to meet the woman who makes [groom] so complete. [Bride,] we have never seen [groom] as happy as he is than when he is by your side. There are no words for me to express how thankful I am to you. Now that I know you, I love you like my own daughter. Welcome to our family.
A child is the biggest blessing that I could have ever had in my life. Even though I am grateful for all of my family and friends, my children are the ones who are closest to my heart. After all, they are a part of me. This is how I feel about my son [groom.] Because of this, I have always wanted to see him happy. I always hoped that he would be successful in life, whether it was winning a sports game as a kid or getting his dream job. No matter what, I always had his back and did whatever I could to root for him. And so I root for him now as he begins a new journey with my daughter in law, as we can all attest to the fact that she makes him very happy.
As [groom’s] dad, I always tried to have his back on everything. I wanted him to know that I would always be there for him through the good times and the bad ones as well. [Groom’s] blessings and trials are ones that I also experience myself. What he goes through, I go through too. And I always have hoped for the best for him from day one. Even now that he is older, he is always still in my thoughts and prayers each and every day. And I have to say that one of my biggest prayers for [groom] was answered. That he would find someone who would love and appreciate him. That this special person would be a great partner to him for the rest of his life. Thank you, [bride] for being a blessing in [groom’s] life. Because of this, you are a blessing in all of our lives as well.
Having a son has been my greatest blessing in life. In many ways, [groom] is like my mini-me and my twin. But over the years, he has grown and he has become his own person. While I have tried to teach him many things over the things, he has taught me caught a few important things as well. [Groom] is someone who really cares about people and he will always go the extra mile for the people in his life. I know that my son will make an amazing husband and God-willing, a spectacular father one day. Let us all raise a glass to [groom] and his lovely bride, [bride.]
As [groom’s] father, I would like to take this opportunity to thank [bride’s] parents for raising such a wonderful young woman who love my son so dearly. Nobody in this world can love him quite like you do. You seem to have brought out the best in [groom,] you make him so happy, and for that, I am eternally grateful. Congratulations to you both on your wedding day.
True love is a treasure that you can never put a price on. Treasure what you have always, take care of it, and guard it well. Knowing the two of you, I am confident that you will both treasure each other always. I know that your marriage will be based on a foundation of respect. Treasure each other and you will never want for anything else. Let us all give a wedding toast to my son [groom] and his bride, [bride.]
Here are some hopes and dreams from a devoted father to his loving son on his wedding day. I hope that the two of you live a life together that is long. I hope that this shared of life of yours is full of joy, laughter, abundance, love, and many other good things. May you always have each other to lean on.
[Groom,] as your father I am very proud to know you. I have had the rare pleasure of watching you grow from a little baby into a wonderful young man. You cannot possibly know how proud I am of you and how much I love you. Congratulations to you and your lovely wife on your wedding day.
As someone who has been in love before and stayed in love up until this very day, I know what it is like to get caught up in romance. From the day the two of you decided to take a chance on each other to the moment you popped the question and she said yes, you have probably been taken through a whirlwind of events throughout your romantic journey together. After the engagement, naturally, comes the wedding planning. It can be an exciting time and a stressful one as well. There are so many things to think about and now the has finally arrived. You can both rest easily knowing that your wedding day was a success, full of happiness and love and the people that are near and dear to both of your hearts. Next of course, comes your honeymoon, a fun and relaxing time for any married couple. A chance to enjoy the first days of being husband and wife, a real opportunity to get away from the noise, chaos, and responsibility of life.
Savor this time together and enjoy those peaceful days of your honeymoon. When you come home, reality will begin to sink in. You will really get to work on building your home and new life together. From now on, all of the decisions that you make will be together as husband and wife. This does not mean that the fun times are over. In fact, this is only just the beginning of many more lovely experiences together.
[Bride,] you look absolutely beautiful today. It is like watching your own daughter get married and as of today, you are officially my daughter because you married my wonderful son.
As [groom’s] father, I have always made it a point to let him know how loved and appreciated he is. He knows how much he means to me and how important he is in my life. So I thought that I would take this opportunity to sing my praises instead for [bride,] [groom’s] wife and my newly-coined daughter-in-law.
It is official, [bride] and [groom] are now newlyweds. What does this mean, exactly? Well for starters, you are family now. You have your parents, siblings, and friends, but at the end of the day, you must come first now. From this point forward, you will be inseparable. You are not just living side by side, now you will be living as one team, a unit that will make important decisions and meaningful memories together. Remember to be kind to each other. Be patient and understanding. Don’t forget to communicate, to laugh, and to love each other. Do these things and you will have a great recipe for a happy, long, and successful marriage. Let us all take a moment and raise a toast to the new couple.
[Bride] and [groom,] separately you are two wonderful people but together, you are even better. You finish each other’s sentences and can communicate without even saying a word. You know how to make each other laugh and smile and you know how to comfort each other as well. You are two peas in a pod, there is no question at all that you were always meant to be together. I have so much love and respect for the two of you, for the lengths that you would go to for each other to make each other happy. Never lose what you two have, because it is a priceless thing that you are lucky to be able to enjoy. Let us all raise a glass to the wonderful couple, my son [groom] and his wife, [bride.]
[Groom] and [bride], while you have loved and cared for one another for a long time, today makes it official: you are now a married couple! I give you all of my congratulations and I hope that you feel the outpouring of love and support for the both of you that is in this room today. The two of you are surrounded by people who are all so happy and thankful to be able to be a part of your special day. I think I speak for everyone here when I say thank you, and I hope that we have all helped in one way or another to make your wedding a day to remember.

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There are quite a number of speeches at a wedding ceremony. The best man speech, maid of honor speech , and even mother of the bride speech. All important and relevant to the couple and wedding guests.

Funny Father Of The Groom Speech Examples

While it’s good to have a few jokes in your speech, make sure to keep it light and positive overall. You don’t want to offend anyone or bring down the mood of the wedding.

“When he introduced us to his fiancée, I knew she was the one. She’s smart, beautiful, and most importantly, she can handle my son’s terrible jokes. And trust me, that’s not an easy feat. Speaking of terrible jokes, did you hear the one about the father of the groom who gave a bad speech? Yeah, that’s not going to be me. I promise to keep this short and sweet, just like my son’s attention span. But in all seriousness, I couldn’t be prouder of my son and his new wife. I wish you both a lifetime of happiness and laughter. Cheers!”
“Good evening everyone. As the father of the groom, I feel like I should have some wise words to impart to my son and his new wife. But, as many of you know, my son hasn’t listened to a word I’ve said since he was a teenager. So instead, I thought I’d share a few embarrassing stories about him. [add some fun appropriate stories] But now, as I look at my son and his beautiful wife, I can’t help but feel proud of the man he’s become. He’s found someone who loves him for who he is, and that’s all a father can ask for. So, to my son and his wife, I wish you a lifetime of love, laughter, and embarrassing stories to share.”

Father Of The Groom Rehearsal Dinner Speech

“Good evening everyone. As the father of the groom, I just want to take a moment to congratulate my son and his fiancée on their upcoming wedding. It’s been a joy to watch them grow together and I’m excited to see what their future holds. To my son and his soon-to-be wife, I wish you both a lifetime of love and happiness. Cheers!”

Delivering a good wedding speech can be nerve-wracking, but with some preparation and tips, you can make it a memorable and enjoyable experience. Here are some key steps to follow:

Remember that the most important part of a wedding speech is to speak from the heart and convey your sincere emotions. With these tips in mind, you can deliver a good wedding speech that will be remembered by the newlyweds and their guests for years to come.

So, while there are no hard and fast rules for such speeches, remember to keep it short and sweet, and end it while raising a toast to the happy couple.

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How to Write a Killer Bride or Groom Wedding Speech

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Wedding speeches can seem insurmountable if you suffer from public speaking anxiety. But this is the perfect time to thank those who have helped make your new life together so wonderful by celebrating your wedding with you.

Bridal speeches are not the norm. The father, groom, and bestman all give speeches, and the guests listen politely. Traditionally, brides would be the centre of attention but not be allowed to make any public speeches. Nonetheless, as of this moment, that will no longer be the case. One should encourage a bride who wants to deliver a speech at her own wedding. We fully support the idea that a bride deserves the same level of attention as any other guest on her wedding day.

Planning to give a toast for both bride and groom. Awesome! We've got the advice you need to write a wedding speech that will have everyone applauding and laughing after the speech delivery.

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Decide on the logistics

Get the big picture sorted out before diving into the specifics of speech writing. When is the speech, and who is giving it? Which, if either, are you doing: speaking together or separately? If you have two documents, which one do you present first? When exactly do you plan to deliver the speech at night? How long is the planned speech? We need to know the mood going in.

It all begins with your gratitude. It goes without saying that you should express gratitude to everyone who has helped you and your new spouse throughout the years, including your parents, siblings, close friends, and coworkers. The act of expressing gratitude to others can be done quickly and is highly recommended. Compile a list of everyone who has helped make your big day a success, and send them a heartfelt thank you.

Thank your guests for attending, your wedding party members for their help and support, your out-of-town guests for making the trip, your parents for their unending support, and the parents of your new spouse for welcoming you into their family. Alternatively, express your gratitude to whoever merits it.

Don't stop short of recognising and thanking those who have helped you. You can make this part of your speech more entertaining by telling a quick anecdote about each person or talking about how much their help meant to the two of you as you prepared for the wedding.

Mention those who couldn’t be there

This is completely discretionary, but it is a lovely opportunity to honour those who were unable to attend the wedding. There may have been influential people who were unable to attend due to health or travel issues. You may also wish to remember loved ones who have passed away on your wedding day. Insert a succinct and entertaining story here.

The groom's toast and the acknowledgement of the bride and groom's parents are the high points of the speech, so save them for last. Though cliche, try to convey what you're really feeling. Don't try to outdo the romantic cliches or quote movies or songs. Take notes on your initial thoughts, and something will form.

The best part is that you get to gush about your boo right now! Share a humorous anecdote from wedding planning or a touching account of how you met and fell in love. The goal here is to relate a charming anecdote, not something mortifying. And remember that brevity is key, especially if you and your partner are swapping anecdotes. You should also check with the other speakers to make sure you aren't repeating themselves.

If you are someone who can "do funny," remember to keep it safe and try to keep it clean, especially if there are parents around. Your friends may find the occasional disrespectful joke amusing, but your new in-laws may not. You know your audience and situation best.

End with your partner

Yes, you did it! You've reached the final point in your talk. All that's left to do is turn to your partner and start crying. Here is your chance to tell your new spouse how much they mean to you, how much today means to you, and anything else that didn't fit in your vows.

Practice makes perfect

If you're feeling anxious, practising your speech will help. Practice your speech in front of the mirror, with a member of your wedding party, or even your dog. You should also practise with your partner if you intend to make the statement jointly and divide up the various sections. It's perfectly acceptable to save some of the speech's contents as a surprise for the big day. The rest can be practised together so that everyone is on the same page about when to speak.

Remember, it's your wedding, do it your way. In that case, perhaps you could give your speech at the rehearsal dinner in front of a smaller audience and get over your fear of public speaking before such a large group of people. Don't wait for the couple to give their speech if you're afraid you'll start crying at the mic. What's more, don't bother giving a speech at all if the thought of doing so fills you with dread. You can thank those who played a role in making your wedding day special by exchanging cards or having heartfelt conversations with each person.

Last minute dos & don’ts

DO: Don't try to wing it; jot down your thoughts instead. Have a hard copy handy in case your phone dies mid-speech and you have to scramble to find it.

DON’T: Just hold off on giving your speech until you've had a few drinks. Give your speech at 7:00 if you know you'll be tipsy by 8:00.

DO: do not hesitate to comment on the speeches of others. If you're up last, you have plenty of leeway to wing it, whether that means thanking your dad for the kind words or defending yourself in the story your best man just told.

DON’T: dominate the conversation and refuse to yield the floor. Share the speech equally if you and a friend will be delivering it.

DO: Observe courtesy towards your visitors' time. Be succinct and to the point when giving speeches, especially if you have many scheduled.

DON’T: Don't be shy about sharing your most embarrassing, personal, or inside joke experiences. When your grandma walks up to you and asks about that time you had a pregnancy scare in Vegas, you'll be sorry you told her that story.

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FAQs About Wedding Speech

How do i write a wedding speech.

What to say at the beginning of a wedding?

Generic. Dear friends and family of the Bride and Groom, we welcome and thank you for being part of this important occasion. We are gathered together on this day to witness and celebrate the marriage of Name Of Bride and Name Of Groom. Every one of us has a deep desire to love and to be loved.

How do you end a wedding speech?

"The end of a wedding speech should summarize the feeling of the speech and the occasion," Chertoff says. "The speaker may want to ask everyone to raise a glass to toast the couple — or they may want to end by saying how much they love the newlyweds." It's really that simple.

What do you say in a wedding speech?

Who speaks first at weddings?

Whoever is hosting the event should speak and take the microphone as soon as guests have found their seats. This first toast is most often made by the bride's parents (or father) and should combine both a toast to the happy couple and a welcome message to the guests.


It's highly recommended that you take the time to show gratitude to other people in your life. One should encourage a bride who wants to give a speech at her own wedding. Here are some tips to help you write a wedding speech that will get everyone applauding in unison. If you have the ability to "do funny," remember to be respectful of others' health and safety. Don't compete with cheesy romantic movie or song references.

Be sure to remember and honour those who were not able to share in your special day. Use a mirror, a member of the wedding party, or even the dog to practise your vows and toasts. If you feel the urge to cry at the microphone, don't wait for the couple to finish their speech. There is more room for error if you're giving the final presentation.

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Father of the Bride Speech Guide

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Wedding speeches can seem insurmountable if you suffer from public speaking anxiety. But this is the perfect time to thank those who have helped make your new life together so wonderful by celebrating your wedding with you. Bridal speeches are not the norm. The father, groom, and bestman all give speeches, and the guests listen … Father of the Bride…

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What to Include in Your Groom’s Speech

Normally wedged between the father of the bride speech and the best man speech, the groom speech needs to stand out here, we offer the very best groom speech examples, templates and tips..

Groom speech

Your groom’s speech is your chance to thank guests, express your love for your new wife, and tell your guests just how much you appreciate them being there. Here’s a few things to bear in mind…

How to start your groom’s speech

Respond to the father of the bride.

Seeing as the groom speech traditionally follows the father of the bride, start by responding to what he   said in his, even if he made fun of you a little bit.

A witty, but not over-the-top reply will set a nice tone for the rest of your speech. Plus, remember to thank him for all he’s done for the wedding, especially if you’ve gone the traditional route with the bride’s fam paying for the whole big day.

Appreciate your guests

While they may not have contributed to the wedding planning process, your wedding guests deserve a bit of appreciation in your groom’s speech. Not only are they the people in your life that are worth inviting to celebrate your big day, they made an effort to be there. Some will have travelled a long way, most will have bought a new outfit, and almost all would have got you a special gift to congratulate you and your new wife!

Who should you thank in your groom’s speech?

Address the bride’s family.

Now it’s time to thank the rest of the bride’s family! Here, you can tell all your guests just how they’ve helped you in bringing this perfect day together, but also how they welcomed you into the family. Chat about memories and let them know how special they’ve made you feel, and how special they are to you.

Thank your family

Your mum may have helped your new wife pick that all-important dress, your sisters might have had a few late nights making bunting for your big day, and your dad gave you some top advice on this speech. So, you’re bound to have a fair few thank yous to deliver to your own family.

Don’t just thank them for helping with the wedding of course. If they’ve helped get you to where you are today, don’t forget them in your groom speech!

Include the bridesmaids

Your bride’s VIP girls! You can’t get away without mentioning these ladies, otherwise you might have a squad of matching dresses on your case once the speeches are over.

Plus, if your new wife isn’t making a speech, she’ll most definitely want you to make a thing of how great they’ve been – even the bad bridesmaids will have played their part at some point of the wedding planning process! Psst… make sure you tell them how beautiful they look, too.

Examples for your groom’s speech

Take a leaf out of McFly’s Tom Fletcher’s book…

Mention your groomsmen

Now, for your righthand men! Because choosing your groomsmen was probably one of your main tasks to do with the wedding, there’s a lot you can say in your groom speech.

Talk about why you chose them, and what they’ve been doing to help your big day run smoothly. Avoid inside jokes from the stag do ; it’s likely that most of your wedding guests weren’t there, so just won’t get it.

Grooms Speech: Wedged between the bride's dad speech and the best man speech, the groom's speech needs to stand out! Here's what to mention in that all-important speech…

Thank your best man

After all, Batman couldn’t be without Robin, could he? The groom and the best man are usually inseparable during the highs and lows of wedding planning. The moment there’s any sign of bridezilla , the best man will know about it.

We’re sure he’ll have been a huge support to you, and because you’ve had so many memories, you’ll have a lot to talk about. But remember to chat to your best man about what’s in his speech – you don’t want him repeating things that you’ve said in yours.

Thank everyone else who helped

The list of everyone who contributed towards the big day might be endless, but give the main helpers a shoutout! Maybe you made the most of a close friend’s baking skills for your wedding cake, or maybe your relative is a keen dress maker?

Big features like that deserve to be appreciated, and if you really don’t have time to get through the list of all the helpers, a shoutout to the vague ‘everyone else who helped’ will do, but remember to give them a little thank you when you see them.

How should you end your groom’s speech?

Toast the bride.

A toast to the bride in your groom’s speech is pretty crucial, but we’re sure you already knew that. Now’s the chance to talk about the effort that she’s put in, how well she’s pulled it off, how beautiful she looks, and of course, how happy you are to be marrying her.

But it’s not as simple as that! We’re not putting the words into your mouth – embellish it with a bit of nostalgia and sentimentality. Talking about the ‘little things’ about the bride will make it that extra bit special for her and your guests. Here’s a little more on what the bride wants to hear in that speech of yours , just in case you’re not sure.

How long should your groom’s speech be?

Try to aim for between seven and eight minutes – this should keep guests amused and engaged for long enough, before you force them to get restless or bored. Don’t make it too short, though – guests will wonder why you even bothered otherwise!

Need some more top tips? Check out these handy hints for your speech , and head to our Groom’s Advice section where you’ll find everything you need.

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Groom Speech Examples

The groom often gets a good roasting from the best man, so the groom’s speech is a chance to get in a few jokes of his own! As well as thanking the wedding party and both sets of parents, what all the guests are waiting for are some romantic and heartfelt words about his new spouse. You’ll find plenty of example groom speeches to help inspire you when the time comes to write yours, plus jokes and delivery tips.

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The ultimate groom speech guide

The most important speech you’ll ever make.

The Groom Speech is a really busy speech. There are a lot of bases to hit – you’ve got all the acknowledgements, thanks and tributes, and if you’re not careful it can easily unravel into one long procession of thanking people, and several hours of your life you’ll never get back. So, things to remember;

It’s an amazing opportunity to say lovely things about people who are, or have been, important in your life, and you really need to make the most of it, because whilst it’s 10 minutes or so on the day, it’s something that will stick with you for the rest of your days, and so getting it right is very important.

You need to make all those thanks, acknowledgements and welcomes, in the most creative and entertaining way possible, and the magic ingredient is humour. If you can make people laugh in an original and personal way, they will love you for it and listen to everything you’ve got to say, and it acts as a perfect balance for some of the more profound things you might like to say.

On this page I’ve written out pretty much every idea, hints and tips that you’re ever going to need to write a really great groom speech.

Quick Links

Opening lines.

Absent Friends

Groom's parents.

Closing Lines

The devil is in the details

Some really bad ideas

How to write a great groom speech.

Here’s a short video with all my hints and tips for writing a great groom speech. I’ve expanded on those thoughts and ideas on this page to give you the complete guide to writing your own.

This is very straightforward. I am not a fan of clichés in wedding speeches and avoid them as much as possible, with one notable exception, and that’s the opening lines of the groom speech. There really is no better way to kick off the speech and to get people cheering from the beginning, than to welcome everyone on behalf of ‘my wife and I’. It works every single time, and anyone looking to better it, really is trying too hard to be different, sometimes, and only very rarely, the dusty old wedding clichés get it spot on.

“Good afternoon everyone…on behalf of my wife and I…thanks you all so much for being here with us, and making to day today even more special….even the best man Dave”

“Good evening ladies and gentlemen, it is so wonderful to have you all here with us today, it really does mean a great deal to us both…I’m just glad that the best man Dave made it here in one piece…because the last thing I heard his full time carers weren’t going to release him”

The structure of a groom speech is really important, because without a clear framework, it can all too soon become a rambling mess. Where people usually go wrong is to keep flitting back and forwards with the same ideas – once you’ve mentioned someone, then you should really keep moving on to different areas. Don’t forget, you’ve only got limited time up there before you out stay your welcome.

  The structure can be very basic. The beginning of the speech should of course, be the welcome, and then you can include thanks to anyone that’s really helped out. Avoid going straight into talking about your bride, as in my opinion and experience, the speech should always build towards her part in the latter stages. Once you’ve got the ‘admin’ bits of the speech covered, you can then include a toast to those no longer with us.

That brings us to the next part of the structure which is all about the important people. This should include:

Things to remember:

Special thanks

I like to include any thanking that needs to be done at the top of the speech and to get it out of the way as early as possible.  

“I would like to thank Uncle Dave for coming all the way from Australia to the UK…which, let’s face it, is just like Australia but with slightly more swimming gold medals and slightly fewer blokes with non ironic mullets”

“I would really like to thank Mary for all her hard work making our cake, and for Cassie for making all the beautiful bridesmaids dresses, thanks to them you haven’t had to look at, or eat anything or look at anything that I’ve been responsible for which can only be a good thing. I have on the other hand been responsible for the free bar which I’m not saying is as good as a dress…but it’s a pretty close second.”

Some people go to extraordinary efforts and expense to be make it to weddings on the other side of the world, and quite rightly that should be publicly recognised in the groom speech. You should try to group these together as much as possible, so if you’ve got several different guests coming all the way from New York, put them under one umbrella and avoid thanking them individually. It’s also an opportunity to have some fun with where they’ve come from and where the wedding is, so a comparison between Los Angeles and Stevenage is ripe for the picking. Maybe as a pay off you could offer some way in which all that effort is going to be worthwhile such as the free bar/meal/watching you dance.

‘Don’t worry uncle Dave your carbon footprint all becomes worthwhile when you see me dancing later on”

“I would like to thank Dave for coming all the way from New York, not saying that Dave’s usually late but to get him here on time we actually told him the wedding was last week.”

There should only be one absent friends toast in the series of wedding speeches, and that’s usually taken care of by the groom. I like to put the absent friend’s toast towards the start of the speech because you want to end on a positive, celebratory note and not to bring things down.

It all depends on how close your relationship was with friends and family that have passed away, but obviously the closer you were, the more detail you’re going to put into this section. Parents who have died, obviously deserve a really special mention, and as difficult as it may be, you’re still going to have to treat this as an overview, and don’t be tempted to go into too much detail. The day is about one person: the bride, and you need to keep the spotlight on her – in other words don’t write a mini eulogy.

“Unfortunately, my father cannot be with us today. He was a much loved family man, son, uncle and friend to many, and he is missed greatly every day.”

This is pretty much the only time in your life that you’re going to stand up and tell a room full of people what amazing parents you have, and what a great job they’ve done, so don’t blow it.  

“Dad, I would like to thank you for passing on your brains…well, I say thank you but as they only led me to becoming an estate agent, the juries out as to exactly how useful they really have been.”

“Dad, thanks for the hair genetics, you really shouldn’t have. I mean you REALLY shouldn’t have.”

The Bride's Parents

What you’re looking to do here is achieve roughly the same world count for both sets of parents. Focussing on one set of parents is the kind of thing that really sticks out in a speech, and usually grooms are guilty of giving their new in laws the big up, and skimping on their own mum and dad, so make sure it’s even.  

The Best Man

I much prefer to handle the best man in the middle of the speech and avoid any clumsy handover at the end, because I believe the conclusion of your speech should be all about the bride. You need to say what a great friend/brother he has been and how much better your life has been for having him in it. This isn’t to be taken lightly, best men are appointed because of their close connection, and it’s the only time you’re ever going to get to let everyone know what he means to you, so make the most of it. Then you need to find a way of having some fun with his character and exploiting some of his weaknesses etc. that might suggest why his judgment could be poor.

“Jake is an estate agent, he’s paid to tell lies, so prepare yourself for some of his most creative work yet!”

“It should be noted that Dave is a Sunderland fan and so has never been amongst a crowd of happy people before and will probably react by creating controversy just s he can feel comfortable again.”

It’s groomsmen in the US and Australia, and ushers in Europe, but they all do the same job: support the groom in the run up to the wedding and ion the big day itself. When you’re thanking ushers keep it general, light and funny, and please don’t find things to say about each and every one, otherwise we’re going to be here all day. This should be fun as well, so if there’s a way of collectively having a laugh with them, exploit it. If you are going to mention the stag weekend or bachelor party, and it’s not something I’d recommend, then do it here, and go light on detail.

The Bridesmaids

It’s your job to talk about and toast the bridesmaids, not the best man. You need to mention them by name, and say what a great group of friends/sisters they have been and how great it is that you’ve got them in your life as well. You could thank them for organising the hen weekend, and say what a culturally enriching experience that was for all concerned. If this involves sisters you should say how amazing it is to now be related…even if you don’t mean it! The toast at the end is the only toast that the groom has to make.

‘Sarah, you are an amazing sister to Jane, and I am so happy that we are now officially family…you don’t have to agree but at least I come with access to free plant machinery hire”

“ladies you all look absolutely amazing, the facts that there are seven of you, and one looks quite grumpy is in no way going to lead me make any Disney comparisons”

This is the conclusion of the speech and in reality, should make up about 30% of the total word count. In these words, you need to describe how you met, what an incredible positive impact she’s had on your life, what her character is like, what she means to you and how you proposed.  

There is a lot to fit in there, and these words will stay with you for life, so make what you say really count. On the other hand, you can’t be too gushy, because that can come across as a little clumsy too. Think about what makes her character unique in your eyes; what is it about your wife that makes her the person you want to share your life with? In these words you could include some short anecdotes of the times you’ve shared so far that highlight her character, passions and unique sense of humour.  

This cannot be one huge chunk of emotion, there needs to be light and shade, funny ideas and observations about your new wife always go down well, and you should sprinkle these throughout. A common mistake is to repeat what you’ve already said but in a slightly different way. So, if you’ve said how much you love her in one way, then that’s enough.

The Final Toast – You’re looking to finish the speech in the most succinct way possible so don’t drag it out too long. I always avoid toasting the bride in isolation, it’s never felt right and I think in the celebration of marriage only toasting one half is a little weird. Instead, just make it a general health/happiness toast and you’re done.

The closing lines in a groom speech are a contentious issue, and I’ve always diverted from tradition. The usual status quo when it comes to the closing lines in a groom speech, is to then hand over to your best man, and this for me, is getting it completely wrong.

The best man should have already been mentioned, the last sentiment and words you should say has to be all about your bride, so why make the best man the final part? Forget handing over to him, and leave at a toast to the future. Everyone knows he’s on next, and many weddings have an MC to remind them.

Other things to consider

Delivering the speech, divorced parents.

This is a really common tricky area, and on that needs to be handled very carefully especially if new partners are involved. Take them one at a time and make sure you give each parent an equal measure. If their new partners have been around for a long time and have had a big impact on your life, then this needs to be recognised.

I usually start with the father, but with Jewish weddings you should probably start with the mother. What you’re looking to do is not give any opportunity for inequality, so don’t wax lyrical about your dad’s new partner and go light on your mum – the ramifications of this speech will last for many years. If either parent has a very new partner on the scene, then it’s best to just omit them altogether.

This is a hugely important ingredient to any really great groom speech. If you make people laugh, they’ll love you for it and listen to everything you’ve got to say, and it acts as the perfect balance to some of the more profound things you might like to say. This should be an entertaining speech with some pretty big messages wrapped up in it – the entertainment factor keeps people interested because there’s only so much emotion people can take.  

However, when it comes to jokes and comedy, I’m not talking about the scripted gags you’ll find on the internet, this is about working out how to make situations and events in your life funny when you’re introducing people and thanking them. Work out what it is that’s funny about your new father in law and have some fun with it. What is it that your new wife doesn’t like about you? How can you exploit your best man’s character flaws? There’s comedy gold out there, you just have to look for it!

Many grooms see the speech as an opportunity to dish out a little treat to people that have helped and who also mean a lot to them, unfortunately it’s one of the most counterproductive things you can do in a speech. Making the whole room twiddle their thumbs whilst various people make their way up to the top table to collect tankards etc. not only makes the speech unbearably long, but also it stops it dead in its tracks.

Forward momentum is the key to a great speech and the last thing you want to do is have to get everyone back on board again. I always recommend handing out the gifts in a private moment on the morning of the wedding.

Marrying across nations

So many weddings involve the coming together of different nationalities and cultures, which adds extra fun and excitement to an already amazing day, but it can also provide a few challenges when it comes language barriers. I have written for countless grooms in this position, and here’s what I recommend:

The groom’s speech is the one that can run away with you and take on epic proportions if you’re not careful. The main problem is that most grooms want to include far too many people in the speech, and talk about them in far too much detail, and there simply isn’t time to do that.

You should really aim for a total word count of 1400 words, which on the day, when read at a steady pace, will come in at around the 10 minute mark, maybe a touch longer with stoppages. Speeches always take longer on the day than they do when you’re practicing at home, but if you’re looking at anything over 1500 words then it really is time to snip a few words here and there.

You’ve also got to bear in mind that if the Father of the bride has spoken for a while and you’re up for half an hour, guests will have sat through an hour of speeches before they get to the best man, and that’s way too long.

It may sound counterintuitive, but detail really kills a speech. That doesn’t mean your speech should be a bland overview, but rather save the detail for where it really matters.

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Lead the way

Most grooms don’t make the most of their position, and that’s a shame because as the guy in charge you can do your bit to ensure that the speeches are a huge hit, and not several hours of your life you’ll never get back.

The maximum number of toasts I would have is 4. You need a general toast at the end, a toast to the bridesmaids, a toast to the parents, and also a toast to those no longer with us.

Of course, this is completely optional but ending your speech without a toast would be odd and also tradition states that you should toast the bridesmaids, so if you’re going to drop any of them it should be the parents and those departed. I would resist the urge to make more than four toasts, so forget the best man, ushers, helpers etc.

One of the pitfalls of a groom speech is having no balance to it because you’re far too keen to talk about your bride. Diving straight in to the subject of the bride might seem like a great idea, but the latter end of the speech and conclusion should all be about her, and so there’s no point in beginning the speech talking about her and then ending it talking about her. I have seen many groom speeches which are only made up of talking about the bride and how amazing she is. You can try it, but it won’t work.

Stag weekend

Ok, it was a great few days away in Magaluf, Berlin or Ljubljana, but those things are best shared with all the survivors at the pub rather than in the groom speech.

Of course, you can thank the best man for organising a great stag weekend, but don’t isolate the rest of the room by recounting stories that make 6 people laugh and the rest of the room scratching their heads. All too often it comes across as boorish and a little conceited, and so far, has never made it into any groom speech that I’ve ever written.

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How to Write A Killer Bride or Groom Wedding Speech

Young, Hip & Married

Writing a wedding speech can be a daunting task, especially if you’re nervous about speaking in front of a group. But it’s an awesome opportunity to let your nearest and dearest know how much they mean to you and how much you appreciate them celebrating the start of your marriage with you.

Traditionally, brides don’t give speeches. They sit quietly and listen while their dad, the best man and the groom give speeches. Brides were to be seen and not heard. But we’ve had enough of that. If you’re a bride who wants to speak at your own wedding – more power to you! We 100% support a bride being heard on her own wedding day.

Getting ready to write your bride or groom wedding speech? Awesome! We’ve got all the steps you need to write a killer wedding speech that will leave the room laughing, crying and applauding wildly by the time you drop the mic.

Decide on the logistics

Before you get to the nitty-gritty of speech writing, figure out some of the big picture issues. Who is going to be giving the speech? Are you speaking together or separately? If you’re giving two separate speeches, who is going first? When in the night are you giving the speech? How long will the speech be? What’s the tone going to be?

Start your wedding speech with some thank yous

This one is easy! You start your speech by giving a round of thank yous. Thank all of your guests for coming, thank your wedding party for supporting you, thank out-of-towners for making the trek, thank your parents for all their love, thank your new spouse’s parents for welcoming you into the family, thank special people who made the day possible, thank vendors, THANK THEM ALL! Or, y’know, thank who you want to thank.

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Mention those who couldn’t be there

This step is optional, but if you’d like, it’s a great time to pay tribute to people who couldn’t be at your wedding. This could be important people who couldn’t physically make it, maybe they are unable to travel or sick. Or this could be people who have passed on that you want to honour on your special day.

Add a short & sweet anecdote to your wedding speech

Here’s the fun part: now you get to gush about your boo! Include a short story about how you met, when you knew you were in love or a funny tidbit from wedding planning. The idea here is that you want to share a cute story, nothing embarrassing. And you’ll want to keep it short, especially if you and your spouse are both sharing little stories. You’ll also want to double check with anyone else giving speeches that you’re not all re-telling the same story.

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End with your partner

You made it! You’re at the end of your speech. Now all you have to do is address your partner and cue the waterworks. This is where you let your brand new husband or wife know how happy you are to be married to them, how much today has meant to you or anything you weren’t able to fit into your vows.

Practice makes perfect

Especially if you’re nervous, rehearse your speech. Stand in front of the mirror, ask someone in your wedding party to lend an ear or recite your speech to your dog. And if you’re planning on doing the speech together and splitting up the different sections, you’ll definitely want to practice with your partner. If there are parts of the speech you want to keep as a surprise for the big day, that’s totally fine. Just rehearse the rest together so you know who says what when.

bride and groom wedding speech at their wedding reception, tips for writing your wedding speech

You know what we say – your wedding, your way! So if you’re really nervous about giving your speech in front of so many people, maybe you can give a speech at your rehearsal dinner in front of a smaller audience instead. If you’re scared you’ll be all teary by the end of the speeches, forget the tradition of the couple speaking last and do your speech first. And if the idea of a speech totally terrifies you, skip it all together! You can give out cards to your loved ones or talk to them one on one and let them know how much you appreciate them making your wedding day magical.

Last minute dos & don’ts for writing the best wedding speech ever!

* DO: write it down and don’t try to wing it. Have a paper copy so you’re not frantically trying to find your phone only for it to die when you’re halfway done your speech. * DON’T: wait until you’re too drunk to give your speech. If you think you’ll be sloshed by 8:00pm, give your speech by 7:00pm. * DO: feel free to respond to other speeches. If you go last, you can totally improvise a bit and thank you dad for his sweet words or try to defend yourself in the story your best man just told. * DON’T: hog the mic. If you and your partner are giving the speech together, divide it up so you can both speak equally. * DO: be courteous of your guests’ time. Especially if you have a lot of speeches planned, try to keep yours short and to the point. * DON’T: share anything too embarrassing, too intimate or too inside joke-y. Trust us, you’ll regret it when your nana comes up to you later and asks you to explain that story from the time you had a pregnancy scare in Vegas.

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Informative Speeches — Types, Topics, and Examples

Daniel Bal

What is an informative speech?

An informative speech uses descriptions, demonstrations, and strong detail to explain a person, place, or subject. An informative speech makes a complex topic easier to understand and focuses on delivering information, rather than providing a persuasive argument.

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Types of informative speeches

The most common types of informative speeches are definition, explanation, description, and demonstration.

Types of informative speeches

A definition speech explains a concept, theory, or philosophy about which the audience knows little. The purpose of the speech is to inform the audience so they understand the main aspects of the subject matter.

An explanatory speech presents information on the state of a given topic. The purpose is to provide a specific viewpoint on the chosen subject. Speakers typically incorporate a visual of data and/or statistics.

The speaker of a descriptive speech provides audiences with a detailed and vivid description of an activity, person, place, or object using elaborate imagery to make the subject matter memorable.

A demonstrative speech explains how to perform a particular task or carry out a process. These speeches often demonstrate the following:

How to do something

How to make something

How to fix something

How something works

Demonstrative speeches

How to write an informative speech

Regardless of the type, every informative speech should include an introduction, a hook, background information, a thesis, the main points, and a conclusion.


An attention grabber or hook draws in the audience and sets the tone for the speech. The technique the speaker uses should reflect the subject matter in some way (i.e., if the topic is serious in nature, do not open with a joke). Therefore, when choosing an attention grabber, consider the following:

What’s the topic of the speech?

What’s the occasion?

Who’s the audience?

What’s the purpose of the speech?

Attention grabbers/hooks

Common Attention Grabbers (Hooks)

Ask a question that allows the audience to respond in a non-verbal way (e.g., a poll question where they can simply raise their hands) or ask a rhetorical question that makes the audience think of the topic in a certain way yet requires no response.

Incorporate a well-known quote that introduces the topic. Using the words of a celebrated individual gives credibility and authority to the information in the speech.

Offer a startling statement or information about the topic, which is typically done using data or statistics. The statement should surprise the audience in some way.

Provide a brief anecdote that relates to the topic in some way.

Present a “what if” scenario that connects to the subject matter of the speech.

Identify the importance of the speech’s topic.

Starting a speech with a humorous statement often makes the audience more comfortable with the speaker.

Include any background information pertinent to the topic that the audience needs to know to understand the speech in its entirety.

The thesis statement shares the central purpose of the speech.


Include background information and a thesis statement

Preview the main ideas that will help accomplish the central purpose. Typically, informational speeches will have an average of three main ideas.

Body paragraphs

Apply the following to each main idea (body) :

Identify the main idea ( NOTE: The main points of a demonstration speech would be the individual steps.)

Provide evidence to support the main idea

Explain how the evidence supports the main idea/central purpose

Transition to the next main idea

Body of an informative speech

Review or restate the thesis and the main points presented throughout the speech.

Much like the attention grabber, the closing statement should interest the audience. Some of the more common techniques include a challenge, a rhetorical question, or restating relevant information:

Provide the audience with a challenge or call to action to apply the presented information to real life.

Detail the benefit of the information.

Close with an anecdote or brief story that illustrates the main points.

Leave the audience with a rhetorical question to ponder after the speech has concluded.

Detail the relevance of the presented information.

Informative speech conclusion

Before speech writing, brainstorm a list of informative speech topic ideas. The right topic depends on the type of speech, but good topics can range from video games to disabilities and electric cars to healthcare and mental health.

Informative speech topics

Some common informative essay topics for each type of informational speech include the following:

Informative speech examples

The following list identifies famous informational speeches:

“Duties of American Citizenship” by Theodore Roosevelt

“Duty, Honor, Country” by General Douglas MacArthur

“Strength and Dignity” by Theodore Roosevelt


“Give Me Liberty or Give Me Death” by Patrick Henry

“The Decision to Go to the Moon” by John F. Kennedy

“We Shall Fight on the Beaches” by Winston Churchill


“I Have a Dream” by Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Pearl Harbor Address” by Franklin Delano Roosevelt

“Luckiest Man” by Lou Gehrig


The Way to Cook with Julia Child

This Old House with Bob Vila

Bill Nye the Science Guy with Bill Nye


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A gold robot holds a piece of paper that is coming out of from its mouth. “I <3 U” is written on the paper. A blue robot with a hand over its mouth and tears coming out of its eyes stands in front of the gold robot.

By Tammy LaGorce

Josh Withers likes it when the couples he marries mess up their vows, such as when someone says, “I take you as my awfully wedded,” instead of the standard “lawfully wedded.”

But lately, Mr. Withers — an international marriage celebrant who helped found the Celebrant Institute , a training and mentoring organization in his native Australia — has been worrying that artificial intelligence will ruin those moments. He has already heard murmurs about the chatbot ChatGPT’s potential role in weddings.

“I’m seeing people using it to write speeches and write vows on wedding Facebook groups,” he said. “If a computer makes the words you speak at a wedding, what you’re going to get is recycled clichés. You’ll lose the humanity, the moments that make us feel love.”

Since its release last November, ChatGPT has become a source of concern in classrooms because of how students can use the chatbot to complete their assignments. Now, the increasing use of A.I. in weddings has raised even more questions about its potential and its ethical boundaries.

Ben Hart, who lives in Park Slope, Brooklyn, runs ToastWiz , an A.I. wedding speech-writing business that provides best men, maids of honor and couples’ parents with scripted remarks. He started the service in December, after a bout of nerves gripped him a few years ago at his own mother’s wedding, when he had headed to the microphone to propose a toast, and blanked.

After that deer-in-the-headlights moment, Mr. Hart heard what might have been a worse speech at another wedding: “It was a father of the bride speech, where the father was bragging about how much he paid for the wedding. It was awkward and uncomfortable.”

For $30, and in less than 15 minutes, ToastWiz generates three original speeches with the help of GPT-3, another A.I. chatbot. Chris Noessel, an author and public speaker who helps audiences understand A.I., and whose day job is actually designing A.I. for IBM, said that even though bots such as ChatGPT are free, the $30 price tag will be worth it for some.

“Just because you have access to this tool doesn’t mean you’re going to know how to use it well,” he said. Those who are terrified of wrestling with words for a speech and are not tech-savvy, he said, may find a service like ToastWiz — which is tailored to write specifically for weddings, unlike ChatGPT — more helpful.

Mr. Noessel, who lives in Richmond, Calif., is among the few ever to be married by an A.I. officiant . On April 2, 2018, he and his husband, Benjamin Remington, a user experience designer, exchanged vows read aloud by a chatbot.

Having a disembodied voice officiate was their way of honoring their relationship in a way that their 150 guests would recognize. “We kind of have a brand,” Mr. Noessel said.

The vows were handwritten, but had ChatGPT been around then, and Mr. Noessel felt as if he needed help crafting language to express his love and commitment, he wouldn’t have dismissed it. As an idea generator for ceremonies, toasts and vows, “there are ethical ways and unethical ways of using it,” he said.

“If you went to ChatGPT and said, ‘My bride-to-be’s name is Marcia and we met on the beach, write me vows,’ what you’ll get is inauthentic because ChatGPT doesn’t know Marcia. It’s just regurgitating stuff out to you,” Mr. Noessel said. But if the chatbot generates vows where “you end up going, ‘I like the structure, but I’m going to replace these sentences with heartfelt sentiments,’ I think it’s fine. It’s the human gate that makes it ethical in my consideration.”

Myka Meier , an etiquette consultant and wedding conduct guru, believes that gate or no gate, vows assisted by A.I. may be a technological bridge too far.

“Those are words that are supposed to set the precedent for the rest of your lives together,” she said. “If you feel you won’t do that justice without using A.I., consider letting the officiant say them rather than writing your own.”

On the other hand, Ms. Meier said she doesn’t believe in using up honeymoon time writing thank-you notes when a bot can help. After her wedding in 2013, she spent hours hand writing personal thank-you cards en route to the Maldives for her honeymoon. Ms. Meier said she would never endorse using fill-in-the-blank, impersonal thank-you letters, but ChatGPT, she recently discovered, doesn’t produce that kind.

Another question for those with A.I. experience and the inclination to use it might be: Why stop at vows or speeches?

Krystal Webber said she would design A.I. for her own wedding if she had the time. Ms. Webber, who lives in Austin, Texas, will be married on May 20. Her work as a partner at IBM’s Global Strategic Partners Division is focused on A.I., which enables her to understand its wedding-related capabilities. Yet, she claimed that there isn’t an AI interface designed with wedding considerations in mind.

“You could use technology to do comparison shopping,” she said. “It could be something like, ‘I’m getting married in Austin on this day, and I’m serving upscale tacos to 125 guests. What are my three best options?’” Shopping for wedding gowns could be a matter of typing, “‘I’m 5-foot-2, I generally wear this size and I’m looking for something in one of these three cuts.’ The technology exists. We just need somebody to build it.”

Ms. Webber can rattle off a full kit of fantasy A.I. bridal tools, including one that greets out-of-town guests with a custom welcome message when they land at the airport, and another that figures out whether it’s cheaper to stay at a hotel within walking distance of the venue or stay farther away and pay for cabs.

For now, though, she’s stuck poring over wedding spreadsheets and envisioning a day when technology will allow for more time to focus on bridal tasks that don’t involve sitting in front of a computer.

“If I could spend 10 percent of the time I’m spending on comparisons and calculations thinking about lighting and decorations, it would matter to me tremendously,” she said.

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I think “Ralph” on iOS and apple devices would be great. It’s very similar to the old “MacinTalk” TTS engine from the early Mac days. Pixar even used it as the voice of the autopilot in Wall-E.

I’ll look into it, thanks!

You can use "speak cell" in excel and turn down the pitch (or was it speed?) in windows settings. That should sound right creepy.

I didn’t even know excel had one lol, but thank you!

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